lodger engaging in noisy sex

[vdbfamily]

How would you feel if the lodger in your house has loud, noisy sex? Last time this happened I was having a new heating system installed with installers all over the house but that didn't put him off. I first thought one of the tradesmen was watching porn but then discovered it was him. I work from home so don't enjoy hearing this. What would you do? I am minded to serve one months' notice since our contract says either party can end it "for any reason at any time".

So do it, you don't need our advice

1 months notice served today. 5th April your time no longer sounds like a porn site.
Case closed.

Notice, or more rent for extra occupancy. Don't think the other options of fake noises or applause at certain points is appropriate here.

Or maybe just bring it up with him? part of me feels it’s a little harsh to just give him notice without asking him to be a little more considerate first.

Get rid for sure 😱

If you're a single woman (or have kids living with you too) I think it's sinister and creepy he's having loud sex when you're home.

It’s not something op should have to bring up. He’s lacking basic respect.

I’d give notice.

Thanks for thoughts. My DH actually wrote this thread on my account as he wanted opinions. Currently he WFH and I am out of house. He has been the one enduring the noise. We have discussed and decided if there is a recurrence, we will have a word to say keep nose down, wait until we are out or have sex at girlfriends house instead. We like him generally and he also has a cold with extra needs who stays 2/3 nights weekly and we don't want them being shunted from home to home. Our kids are all at Uni but will be back in holidays and that will be a deal-breaker for sure if it continues while they are around.
Lodger generally quite thoughtful so not sure why he is so unaware of this, although it is the girlfriend who is noisy!!!

Noise not nose🤣

Child not cold! Apologies.

You are being very tolerant of this person. Who would be involved in noisy sex with you and your husband in the house.When tradesmen in the house as well!

I think you are being very kind but if you want this person to stay noiseless and his girlfriend you in my opinion need to speak to him now and inform of the house rules!

Sounds like he's a good lodger generally apart from this one thing. So just mention it or get your husband to - maybe he can do it in a more blokey way which won't land badly.

Personally I'd not risk it happening again when when kids home- they don't want to hear a random bloke having sex in their house!!

Just tell your husband to tell him it's a family home, he is working there, he doesn't want anyone hearing him having sex. I didn't think men would even be bothered about that. I'm surprised he didn't knock loudly and tell him to be quiet the first time it happened