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Hot shop guy

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Myera · 25/02/2025 07:18

HOT SHOP GUY!
Separated 8 months from 17 year marriage. It’s been a journey not gonna lie! But I am settled in my new home and much happier after leaving my controlling husband. I am keen to stay on my own and work on myself so when or if I do meet someone I’ll be in a good place for it. However 🫢 I came across a really hot guy one day in a local shop 😂 and we kind of had eye contact and smiles etc as we went about our shopping duties (I know cringey) and that was that. Got a little kick out of this and went about my day! I live in a fairly small town since the separation. About a week later I went out for dinner with some local girls and one of them posted a picture of us on social media. Next day hot shop guy asks to be my friend! Obviously curiosity made me accept and we have been chatting on there for a while which has been lovely and nice and distracting from the reality of life as we know it! Anyway… we met for a walk this week and coffee (secret location away from eyes 👀 of gossipy town) and we shared a kiss. Now I'm no teenager but this made me feel like one! Sooo he asked to take me for dinner and I said no!!! Only because it’s early days for both of my kids (if they knew it would be very upsetting for them) and I don’t want it getting out that I’m meeting random hot guy for seedy little walk 😂. So he asked if he could cook for me next week at his house😱😱. Should I go and risk falling into his bed and getting myself into all manners of naughtiness with hot shop guy who I don’t really know? Am I just overthinking as I have been with one guy for so long and this is very new - and thinking of the kids etc or should I have some fun?! I’d appreciate some help with this. My friends tell me to have fun!

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user1471505356 · 25/02/2025 08:24

Enjoy.

MaeDaymon · 25/02/2025 10:16

Go for it! It's not often you find an instant connection with someone.

GentlemanJay · 25/02/2025 12:20

Sounds like the storyline of a "chick flick". Lol.

Myera · 25/02/2025 14:43

🍿 😂

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Gymbunny2025 · 25/02/2025 14:44

I'm confused. Why is a first date to a coffee shop seedy? Why did you say no when he asked you to dinner? Just arrange a different day/time?!

Gymbunny2025 · 25/02/2025 14:45

MaeDaymon · 25/02/2025 10:16

Go for it! It's not often you find an instant connection with someone.

Really? I have that all the time! God help me if I was single 😂

outdooryone · 25/02/2025 15:00

Sounds lovely. Enjoy.

smithey855 · 25/02/2025 17:23

Gymbunny2025 · 25/02/2025 14:44

I'm confused. Why is a first date to a coffee shop seedy? Why did you say no when he asked you to dinner? Just arrange a different day/time?!

This.

Nothing in your post is seedy, and given you've been married for 17 years, one would assume your DC's are teenagers/young adults - I can assure you they will not be upset that there mum has found happiness with.

I think its slightly different with Daughters and fathers but you need to do what works for you.

I wouldn't worry about prying eyes. nobody is going to care. I'm a bit confused why you said no to a dinner date but are happy for a cosy evening in with him which will almost certainly lead to sex...?

Zeroperspective · 25/02/2025 18:42

Have some fun! Just be totally honest about your expectations, do you want a relationship but to take it slowly until your kids are in a better place to handle mum having a boyfriend or do you just want sex? As long as you're upfront about it so you and hot shop guy are on the same page then GO FOR IT (yes I'm shouting, well more like giddy squealing lol) I'm 2 1/2 years free of my controlling husband and believe me, I'm having FUN and my kids are clueless because who the hell discusses their sex life with kids anyway?! Just make sure you use a condom and both agree your boundaries.

17yrs of shit? Girl you deserve to feel the tinglies 😉

Myera · 25/02/2025 18:58

Gymbunny2025 · 25/02/2025 14:44

I'm confused. Why is a first date to a coffee shop seedy? Why did you say no when he asked you to dinner? Just arrange a different day/time?!

I just didn’t want to go out for dinner in case my kids find out. It’s not seedy is it - I’m just overthinking everything and not used to meeting up with a guy!! X

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Myera · 25/02/2025 19:00

I think I was just overthinking. I have been in quite a controlling marriage and I guess it’s just gonna take time for me to realise I can do whatever I want! I’m going to meet him for dinner and enjoy it x

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Zeroperspective · 25/02/2025 19:03

Yay you go girl! Don't forget to come back and update us how it went

Myera · 25/02/2025 19:08

I will give you an update 😂

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Zeroperspective · 25/02/2025 19:15

Just to be clear I'm a woman and not some sleazy guy wanting the gory details, just a smiley face (hopefully!) is sufficient 😂
I'd also like you to repeat to yourself multiple times daily; I'm a grown woman, I can do what I want and I answer to nobody especially exH.
I remember the first supermarket shop I did upon freedom and half way round I realised the trolley was full of "his" favourites, I abandoned the trolley (I'm so sorry supermarket workers) and went wild buying what I wanted.
It's hard when you've been controlled and conditioned for so long and it becomes your normal but I'm here to tell you, it gets better, way way better when you realise you can absolutely suit yourself 🥰

NinaOakley · 25/02/2025 21:23

Darling kids are clueless! Mum and sex are concepts on opposite sides of their brains respectively next to laundry and hamper and dishes and sink!
Have a lovely time x

Myera · 25/02/2025 23:38

Don’t worry I’ll save the gory details! And I’ll take your advice and repeat your little mantra until it sinks in x thank you x

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Myera · 25/02/2025 23:38

You are so right x

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Plantmother71 · 26/02/2025 20:42

Oh yes go for it! I was in a similar position and it’s very liberating. Have fun!

partyfoodpickingpiggy · 07/03/2025 09:41

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partyfoodpickingpiggy · 07/03/2025 09:43

Wrong thread sorry!!! Blush
P.s- have fun!

Zeroperspective · 09/03/2025 19:00

@Myera I don't often think about posts on here after I've closed the app and got back on with my life but you've been taking up space in my brain on and off lol I assume because I saw myself in your OP and I'm rooting for you to be having as much fun as I now am! Did you go for dinner? Did you stay for "desert"?? As per previous not expecting gory details just a thumbs up (oh please be a thumbs up 🤞🏻) or a thumbs down (noooo 😭)

Myera · 10/03/2025 09:07

@Zeroperspective I took your advice! I went for dinner! We have met a few times now and dessert was then had 👍 😋 (how did I miss out on such good sexy times for 18 odd years?!!)
Your advice and other on here helped me so much! I felt completely in control and comfortable and had such an amazing time!! Quite liberating indeed to come out of a bad relationship and become independent from all of the toxic stuff. I am happily pleasing myself now and although hot shop guy was useful I’m not planning on getting too involved - I like this pleasing myself malarkey and finding out who I am! So thank you! You really helped me x

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Zeroperspective · 10/03/2025 09:09

Amazing I'm so happy for you! I couldn't agree more, you absolutely please yourself and have fun. I'm delighted, what a lovely way to start the week hearing another woman is free from a toxic relationship and finding happiness and strength 😊

NinaOakley · 10/03/2025 09:54

Myera · 10/03/2025 09:07

@Zeroperspective I took your advice! I went for dinner! We have met a few times now and dessert was then had 👍 😋 (how did I miss out on such good sexy times for 18 odd years?!!)
Your advice and other on here helped me so much! I felt completely in control and comfortable and had such an amazing time!! Quite liberating indeed to come out of a bad relationship and become independent from all of the toxic stuff. I am happily pleasing myself now and although hot shop guy was useful I’m not planning on getting too involved - I like this pleasing myself malarkey and finding out who I am! So thank you! You really helped me x

Congratulations! I am very happy for you c

Gymbunny2025 · 10/03/2025 11:59

Lovely update ❤️

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