Pegging

[Ploddingalongagain]

48 year old married bloke here.
want to try pegging but worried what wife will say.
am I too old for pegging?
I want the wife to be in control if that makes sense?

She would probably appreciate you mucking in with the domestic chores and 48 is not to old to start.

You might get a blowy for being a good boy 🐕 x

I've tried pegging, but since then I've got a tumble dryer. Never looked back and the Mrs is over the moon!

😂👏

Never had a single negative thought on pegging. Then one woman said her man won't do penetrative anymore because he enjoys pegging too much. The pegging led to his possible ED, and he couldn't climax when he did do penetrative to keep her "happy," but that was barely anything. She wanted advice about her divorce. Beware, it may be a slippery slope. 😄 I don't know how great I would feel if my partner was only doing penetrative to keep me happy and to stop me from running away. But then, secretly counting down the days until his next pegging action. I want to be what he looks forward to. I want to selfishly be the most enjoyable sexual experience he has. If he enjoyed pegging a little too much compared to penetrative, then my insecurities would be in full swing. Must not be everyone who does this, but if it's as good as they say they, why wouldn't you? There's no intimacy in this act for the woman.

Ignore the silly replies above. What are you afraid of?

@Ploddingalongagain

some women will see you as gay for wanting to do that.
thats the concern you should have

That's a very strange idea.

Pegging does nothing for me personally, but DH enjoys it from time to time, so Im happy to do it for him. It’s not any sort of role reversal thing either, he just enjoys the sensation on his prostate.

I don’t understand why people have a fear that if a man likes to be pegged he must be gay. He is still sleeping with a woman.

That's what I thought of ex DH. Turns out that he might have been sleeping with a woman but he was fantasising about men. Have you seen Brokeback Mountain? The way the wife is treated on that supposed 'love story'?

Bring it up by all means OP but don't be surprised if it's a hard no and your wife wonders why you're suddenly wanting to go down that path.

Pegging and domination can go hand in hand but are quite separate things. I think you need to clear what you’re asking for.

Does your wife currently do anything involving your arse? If not, it’s a big leap to expect her to wield a strap on and start thrusting! Perhaps start with some external prostate massage (lubed knuckle pressure against the perineum) or using some toys. Check out sex educator Lola Jean who has some good resources about pegging.

As far as domination goes, you could suggest some light bondage or verbal domination. But, fundamentally, if she’s not naturally dominant she might find it hard to pretend to be so.

The only way to find out if your wife is willing to engage in this type of play is by having an open conversation with her about your desires.

Personally, I think going from nothing to pegging is a risky strategy.

start small and work your way up, fingers, toys etc. mutually if she’s up for it. As she becomes aware that it’s something you enjoy, you can push the boundaries a little with the knowledge that she will know the reasons why.

When I had ED, there was a lot of fingers, toys and eventually pegging. I wasn’t hugely keen on the pegging as I already felt quite emasculated.

it’s really important that the pegging is a relatively infrequent activity, and for the most part it should be , IMO, normal PIV , remember, it is unlikely to give your DW the same sexual satisfaction that you will get.

I’m unsure why you’re afraid to ask her. I’m a similar age, as is my DH. If he asked me, I’d say no. But it wouldn’t bother me that he asked.

I agree especially with Pinot's advice. It's not something to jump into. It does feel amazing but it can easily go wrong.

A tangent, but I think it a pity that there's a lingering stigma about male submissiveness, especially to women. I get the feeling that for a lot of men it's a secret shameful fantasy, and for women it's a big, big turn-off. The subject for another thread though.

As a woman, I could not do this to a man because I like to be dominated and it would just completely turn me off to do a role reversal. I wouldn’t even be able to pretend.

Some women like to dominate though and would be happy to penetrate the man in the way, so if you can find a way to ask, it might be worth it?

I just read your post after writing mine, and yes that’s exactly how I would feel about it - it might be wrong to feel that way about male submissiveness but it just completely turns me off.

It's definitely not wrong to feel that way about male submissiveness. For a lot of women it's a massive turn off. But importantly it's a turn off for you!!

I'm not into being dominated or dominating anyone personally. That's not what sex is about for me

I have experience in this but can I ask

What are prepared to offer your wife in return ?

If my 52-year old husband wanted to try pegging, I'd be up for it. If he wanted to try something I wasn't willing to indulge in, I wouldn't be offended that he asked (if it was legal!). I do generally prefer to be dominated rather than be the one that dominates, but I'd be up for pegging from time to time. It'd be fun. It's more worrying that you can't talk to her about it, than that you want to try it. What are you afraid of?

Nice to find someone give sensitive and thoughtful advice. Some other comments are a tad unsympathetic/mocking.

I agree .. a little conversation about delving into new territory slowly if wife not that way inclined. Having said that, she may be completely up for it, but if not sure, it could be the start of a more interesting sex life if she comes round to the idea. Good luck.

A penis up your rectum .. wowzers 🥳

Strictly speaking @Straightouttaclacton pegging is done with a dildo and not a penis. So it's a dildo up your (their, his) rectum. 🥳

Yep, I know but it’s the thought that counts @Maybebe 😳

I enjoy it but only ever with a plain strap on, I don't understand why anyone been pegged uses one that replicates a penis..but each to their own.