Does height really matter?

[notanotherdad]

In this social media world, where real conversations have become a thing of the past and many people preferring to screen possible partners online. A common topic keeps appearing and that is the desire for men to be 6 ft +
So does height really matter and is there hope for men below 6 ft?
As a second question, does the man being 6 ft+ have any real impact on the relationship? Surely if these men are in such demand, why wouldn't they use it to their advantage?

In terms of sexual attraction and lust the taller the better for me. However for a relationship there are lots of factors to consider and lust fades.

I don't only fancy men over 6 foot but I once dated a guy who was 5'3, and in heels I was taller than him. I'm around 5'2 so it was weird for me, towering over a man. I think his height along with the fact he was very slender and petite all over was a factor that meant I wasn't very attracted to him and so I didn't date him for long. My husband is over 6 foot and I find his height attractive but to be honest most men are going to be a lot taller than me so I'm not really that fussed on going for a specific height as there are other qualities that are important to me.

i don't understand the height obsession. I would never filter for height online. Personally I prefer men not to tower over me. I am 5 foot five and think 5 foot 8 or 9 is perfect. I see any taller as a disadvantage. I would be fine with a little shorter than me too.

I prefer men under 6ft. Not sure why, just never been interested in tall men. My husband is around 5ft 8/9 or something. I’m only 5ft 3.

I didn't match with my husband initially through a dating site as he was one inch below my specified 6 foot + height requirement and a few years out of my upper age limit. But we did meet despite my strict algorithms and I'm very glad!
Many women probably prefer a man to be taller than them and I am ashamed to day I was quite shallow in preferring tall men in my dating days. But I don't think the height thing matters nearly as much as meeting the right person.
I'd just date people you click with and go for it. There will absolutely be someone perfect for you, though it's sometimes a slog trying to find them. Don't lie about height tho- I went on a date once with someone who proclaimed to be 5"11 and was in fact nearer 5"7 and I wore heeled boots that evening!

As an extra, the very tall are useful for getting things off high shelves!
But it's not the be all and end all!

Yeah I can’t get too hung up about height but I’m only just over 5 foot. I did once date a guy who was 6’3” and that was little awkward at times.

Personality much more of interest to me than an arbitrary height.

talk, short - what does it matter????

I want a kind, funny, caring, loving man - not someone who measures up to a height chart!!

Exactly the same for me. Couldn't give a toss how tall someone is.

Yeah I don’t like men towering over me either! Although it wouldn’t be the end if the world if everything else was good. Would I filter by height? No.

I think it's smallness rather than shortness that puts women off. I'm five feet six, so not particularly short but I'm also thin - I've always been smaller and lighter than most women. I've just about never sparked any interest and I consider myself quite fortunate to have got married.

The advantage is that friendships with women have been easy for me because sexual attraction doesn't get in the way!

Thankfully everyone finds different things attractive. Being short hasn’t stopped any of my male friends/relatives/colleagues finding partners.

I’m 5’8” and once dated a guy the same height as me. He was very good looking. We actually broke up because he smoked (and I hated the smell), rather than height playing any part.

Generally I like the feeling of being small 😂 DH is 6’3” with broad shoulders, which I love.

Height doesn't make too much difference to me, I probably prefer someone at least the same height as me but most men are taller than me. I've been attracted to tall men 6 foot + and shorter men 5 foot 7 / 8 equally.

It's nice to see the positivity on this question, I only asked because of single male friends raising the issue of height filters on dating sites. I myself am height impaired at the grand height of 5'5" 😬 but I feel fortunate that I met my DW before online dating, but in my personal experience, height has never really been an issue. I've only ever dated one woman shorter than me, I feel personally goes a long way.

@notanotherdad I think like with most things when they go online like job applications creating a filter is just a way to cut the numbers down. Like if 100's are applying then you can't chat to them all you need to start filtering and height is kind of an easy option, the same way a job will filter you out if you failed your GCSE maths exams. Its not probably not the strong preference its made out to be and wouldn't be such a thing if people met irl. The difference is that online eventually changes the culture in general so there could be women who think height is a big deal because they were always told to filter for it when left to their own devices in person wouldn't be that fussed if there was attraction there.

I think you're 100% right and men don't help themselves, because watching one friend on tinder, he was just swiping like on every profile without reading. As a woman it's got to be overwhelming and it makes sense to filter out people on basic wants.

Yeah I agree if men were more selective in who they messaged it would be less overwhelming and women would be more able to engage meaningfully.

The sad thing is, I think a lot of men see it as a numbers game, someone will say yes at some stage.

I can totally imagine that if I was being rejected/not swiped whatever by 95% I'd swipe yes on everyone then filter on who swipes back too!

What I would not do is lie in my profile though. Especially about height or age

😂 it's easy for me to say to be more reserved in who you like on apps, because I'm not looking. But you're right, if I got no's all the time, I'd probably be the same. "300 miles away with 17 kids... go on then" 😂

DH is 6’3 and it’s nice sometimes to have that, it’s especially nice when he spoons me as I feel completely enveloped if that makes sense? It’s definitely not the be all and end all, I’ve dated smaller guys in the past but I’m tallish so I probably tended to err towards taller men. I will say though that tall but out of proportion I don’t like, DH doesn’t have super long legs but his brother is also tall and is all
legs.

Interesting answers on here….

i’d say every other profile says ‘ if you’re not at least 6 foot, don’t bother swiping right’

And you wonder why men massage their height:.::

it works the other way though, I tend to not be so interested in anyone over 5’7 ( I’m 5’10 ish…) but if they tick other boxes then I won’t discount.

I agree with all of this. Mine is 6'2 and it's just so ... manly 😂