Embarrassing bj experience

[soembarrassedhelp]

I've (36f) have been seeing a guy (37 m) for 2 months. I thought all was going well, we've been having sex regularly and I've given him blow jobs before but last night when I did he kept telling me to be careful of my teeth. I've never had this complaint from partners before although he is quite well endowed I suppose and the sex was fairly wild last night. We went on to have full sex but im so embarrassed and worried that he won't want to see me again because of my shockingly bad bj.

I'm not really sure what I'm wanting from writing this here. Any words of comfort I suppose? If he messages me again should I apologise? I can't talk to anyone IRL about this because I'm too embarrassed. I keep replaying everything he did/said after sex to try to work out if he won't want to see me again (he didn't do/say anything out of the ordinary)

A guy who is into you, is not going to dump you because of a bad blowjob. And it probably wasn't even bad.

Just ask him, mention that he felt uncomfortable when you were giving him a BJ and ask if it was ok?

Don't overstress it, I think I understand what has prompted him, sometimes teeth get dragged across the tip which can be very sensitive and mildly painful taking the edge off the pleasure. I am sure the experience was still very pleasing, he was probably just trying to make you aware.

Thank you, I am so embarrassed! We still had intercourse and he does orgasm quickly through that - do you think that is a good thing and might save me after my terrible performance yesterday? 🙈

@soembarrassedhelp I am sure you are more than satisfying him, the important thing is he satisfying you appropriately too?

@GarrynotsoGorilla yes it's amazing from my point of view which makes the teeth issue even worse!

When you were giving him a BJ you may have inadvertently mildly bitten him which is very easy to do.

@SkyGrant are you saying that I don't necessarily need to be too embarrassed or worried that he will be put off me? I'm absolutely horrified, especially as it's early days and I really like him.

@soembarrassedhelp done get hung up with your performance enjoy and relax and it will be better for both of you.

@GarrynotsoGorilla I will if he wants to see me again after last night! I feel quite anxious about it really but am trying not to message so that I don't come across as weird/clingy

Hi Op I do not think that you need to worry. Just say sorry about the teeth issue

I would talk to him

Is it possible he mentioned it for the sake of the relationship (long term).
P.s I he does end things for the sake of this then he’s not worth holding on to anyway.

You’re totally overthinking this.

He’s given you some feedback, that’s all. Why would you be embarrassed about that? You’re still learning each other’s bodies and the only way to do that is to communicate what feels nice and what doesn’t.

If you’d said “Could you stroke my clit a little slower?”, do you believe he’d be thinking “OMG! I’m shit in bed. She never wants to see me again!”

Just ask him if you could do anything next time to make it more pleasurable for him. Then hopefully he’ll ask you the same.

Thanks everyone, he has messaged me like normal today so maybe it's not the big deal I think it is!

Don't forget the classic question to a man

"Describe your worst blow job?"

"Fantastic "