Any male partners who don't masturbate?

[lucyandmike]

My husband has always been into masturbating and open about it, doing it a few times a week on average. Early last year he said that he thought he wasn't doing it quite as much now and his orgasms during sex had actually gotten stronger.

A few months ago he said he was going to try and refrain from masturbating in between sex which I didn't really believe or think would happen! It's been 3-4 months but he said that he really has got to a point where he not masturbated for about the last month. Not sure if this is good or bad but wondering if any other men do not need to or manage to refrain from masturbating at all?

@Gymbunny2025 I think that’s great that your relationship is that open, and it probably makes you feel better knowing that he’s so open as to show you what he’s wanking to.

I regularly see on here ( more so the relationship forum ) that porn is the devil, but for a man , who generally needs visual stimulation, there really isn’t very many other options.

I was referring specifically to this thread. You were commenting that the women are naive and the men lying. I just didn't see the motivation to lie

Im also a little shocked you think men didn't masturbate before Pornhub 😂

I think that most people do, nothing to be ashamed of, good for your sexual health. I do at weekends as been single for 10 years (my choice), my ex did it and she knew I did, we worked opposite shifts for 17 years.

This thread reminds me of a line I once heard at the comedy club.
‘There are two types of men, those who admit to masturbating and liars.’

Chime nicely with the penis size joke. What size? Small, medium or liar?

Couples should do this together. Demonstrate what works for each. Play a game where you "catch" on another in the act.

My wife of 46 years and I encourage each other to masturbate
we know it’s good stress buster it’s a joy to watch each other
she will do it on long car journeys and we both do it during the night if one of us wake up we either join in or go back to sleep.
prostate cancer runs in my family and coming keeps it healthy
with the help from my wife I can now come with prostate massage which I believe is very healthy for my prostate.

Good for you both.

While your driving?

I’m doing the driving my wife is doing the relaxation

Well, I don't masturbate anymore. But that's an age thing, rather than a relationship thing.

Well done, both of you. 39 yrs married here. I do it maybe twice a week and my wife says she never has. No reason to doubt her, but rather fancying a 5 hour drive now, for some reason.

My husband is a masturbator! He's always done it and I don't mind at all, I'll watch him sometimes. He says he does it about 3 times a week and it's when he just gets and urge or turned on and needs to cum.

I masturbate too, it feels so good so not sure why someone wouldn't or feel bad about it.

I think in the past there was definitely some embarrassment and self-consciousness about wanting to or needing to masturbate, especially for girls and women and I definitely felt this growing up. It is not something I would have admitted to anyone initially.

Now, I feel masturbation is much more acceptable to admit to doing at least and talk about, with the expectation that most people to it and it's not a thing to be ashamed of.

Women should not be embarrassed about masturbating, and they do not need to hide the fact that they do. In fact, if they don’t personally stimulate to orgasm by masturbating, how are they going to really find out exactly what arouses them to climax? This applies to vaginal and clitoral stimulation during masturbation.

And for male partners, it is fun to watch and is potentially a learning experience.

you need to have more sex every day if you can. as for him trying to stop or be encouraged by you to stop is stupid. all guys masturbate a few times a week or a day

My men did it 3-4 time alone in 5 years. He did it many times beside me.

what a waste. i'd be inside and enjoying PIV. he is not worth your time or effort

Once a wanker always a wanker. He shouldn't deprive himself. Hopefully you get to watch him. My ex always watched and felt cheated if I'd wanked off without her there.

I would agree with this. My husband is a wanker 😂and has been for years. There have been a couple of times where he said he was going to refrain from doing it but I don't think he ever managed to do that!

Men should be masturbating...it might literally save their lives!

A study of 32000 men over 18 years showed that men who ejaculate 21 times per month had a 20% lower chance of getting prostate cancer than those men who only cracked off 4 to 7 times per month.

We have sex twice a day so neither of us bother masterbasting alone tbh if we fancy a play we will do it to each other instead as we prefer that

Slightly off topic, but I had a girlfriend whose fantasy was to be "caught" while self pleasuring. She would say to me, "I'm going off alone for a few minutes.." That was my hint to wait a while then wander into the bedroom or bathroom (she liked shower massagers and dildoes) then "catch" her. Then she would have me reciprocate. It was the most mutually erotic explosions. Multiple orgasms both of us.

On the subject of women in relationships keeping it secret. I masturbate and have openly discussed it with DH who is fine with it.
What I don't go out of the way to tell him is how often. It's probably more often than he thinks.