How often do you have sex?

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I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have sex around 2-3 times per week (we live at home with parents and both shift workers so work long days for context).

If you're comfortable sharing how often do you have sex, how long have you been together and are you content/ happy?

A few times a week but it can fluctuate depending on how tired we are or how my time of the month affects my mood. I've always had a high libido but I've been stressed and more tired recently and so it's dropped off a bit, but we're still managing about 2 to 3 times a week. I regularly masturbate on my own whenever I feel like it. We've been together 9 years, married with 4 kids. I'm happy with that amount. I think he would still like it every day but he doesn't put pressure on me if he knows its a no go.

Been with my partner 41 years met when I was 16 he was 18 still have sex twice a week sometimes 3 times

I thought we were on the low side until I read mind the gap by Karen gurney and it talked about the Natsal report.

Then I realised that all that matters is that you’re both having the sex you want and that quality over quantity is best!

26 yrs together very consistent over that time and very happy.

Natsal

In my relatively recent long long term relationship, we had sex probably about 10 times a week.

My ideal is morning and night. So 14 times a week.

On average.

And yes I would need that to feel happy and content and loved.

Normally 6 days per week and twice on weekends

Together 10 years in our 30s, 2 kids 4 year old and a 18 months old... We were averaging 1 per week and that was okay but recently my sex drive majorly increased and I had to have a chat with hubby that I wanted it more... Now 2-3 per week but tbh I would rather it was every day unfortunately can't change someone else's sex drive.

Together 9 years, married nearly 4, around 4 times a week.

Early 50s, averaging once a month now.
Not enough for me.

Myself and my partner don't live together so sex only happens if one of us staying over with the other. Sex happens around twice a week on average.

2 or 3 times over a weekend, occasionally 4. Rarely on a work night, l get too tired, but never say never.

Geez, and here was me thinking once a week in a long term relationship was doing well!

During the honeymoon period (first couple of years) DP and I were averaging two-three times a week, but that crashed to around once a fortnight in the last eight months. It’s down to feeling tired after work, other stuff going on (so lack of opportunity) as well as mismatched sleep cycles (I’m rubbish first thing in the morning and dp is falling asleep by 9.30pm!) I had a similar situation with my previous partner too. Once the initial heat wore off, once a fortnight suited them perfectly. There were other things they’d rather do.

I just put it down to the “can’t keep our hands off each other” hormones wearing off and it being normal. Then again, this is the Sex forum so I guess this thread’s going to attract people who place more importance on it!

@Badaboop

Have a look at the NATSAL above it would put you above average in that you are 4 in the last 4 weeks. Average being 3 in 4 if that makes out feel any better not that it matters.

I do agree that you could get a different picture on the relationship board or even chat ot AIBU. If you have a sex positive place, then I would imagine that it would attract sex positive people who put a greater priority on that part of their relationship or at least one partner who does.

Interestingly we have worked through the fair play process by Eva Rodsky and as surprisingly there is not area of responsibility for sex. I our relationship If I did not make the space and initiate sex it would not happen as frequently and I am not talking coercive sulking, moaning or pressure. In a fair play model, I hold that card it seems.

2-3 per week. I would prefer more but we have different drives, so the number is a compromise on both sides I would say

Married 16 years, 2-3 times per week. Four kids all out of the young child age bracket…. Excellent quality sex- less vanilla as we get older surprisingly!!!

Been together 10 years, no children and both have full time jobs, we live in a house with our 3 dogs that we’ve got a mortgage on and have sex probably less than 10x a year.