Best positions after baby

[Plskeepmeanonymous]

After our DC was born I realised I didn't want to go back on hormonal contraception as it had really affected my sex drive and I was enjoying having it back after so many years on the pill. We've been using condoms instead and my husband is booked in for a vasectomy in a couple of months (family is definitely complete, neither of us have any doubts about that). The issue is that he hasn't been able to cum from PIV (maybe once or twice but no more than that), which he thinks is down to the condoms affecting his sensitivity. I've been getting him there with oral which he obviously enjoys and I do too, but I do miss having him finish inside me. My big worry is that it's not the condoms but that my vagina has changed since DC was born, and that after he's had the vasectomy we're still going to have the same problem. I did have a tear but it has all healed really well and I don't have any issues, but I do think that it all feels a bit less tight than it used to. Maybe not during sex but I used to always feel resistance when he first entered me which now isn't there. I guess what I'm asking is has anyone else had the same problem and are there any particular positions that might help to get him there? Or any other good advice?

Morning @Plskeepmeanonymous, (M here)
The mother of our 3 children worried the same as you, after 3 vaginal deliveries. A physio told her to use kegel balls or similar which she did religiously.
Being totally honest, I did notice a little "slackening" BUT she (we) used to really enjoy how she could tighten around me "at will." PiV was different, but a lot of fun and we enjoyed it for many years.
My observation was she began to feel "confident" again and that made a massive difference.....not just with sex, but her whole disposition....she told me she felt "attractive" again, despite me always telling her she was.
Maybe she needed to "take control" before she could really believe..
Sorry, I've rambled a bit there, but hopefully I've reassured you a bit from a M perspective.

Thank you, that's some helpful advice and good to have a male perspective. I must admit I do feel more confident in myself than I ever have before (I think partly due to my increased sex drive, partly that I feel more in tune with my own body after going through pregnancy and birth), so this does resonate and hopefully we can have a similar experience!

Pelvic muscle exercises.

And try sitting on the floor in the meditation pose I.e. Legs crossed and bum planted on the floor. Now squeeze your butt cheeks together and feel as though you're pulling the earth up and inside of you until it reaches the secral chakra. (the one between the navel and the pubic bone.) You will feel a sensation. Keep it there.
In spooning position let your husband enter you from behind and do the same squeezing practice as though you're pulling him in. Your husband can also reach round your body to the secral area and put pressure on the area with his hand. You can direct him with this until you both feel a different sensation.
HTH

@Mysticguru thank you, some things I can try here. Sounds like this could work well for us.