'Hookup' question - safety

[Panci]

I am a 58 female. I have been single for 5 years, and not had sex for a long time before that. I have had no joy in meeting someone, OLD has been awful. What I have noticed though is how many younger men seek out the older woman. Whilst I'd never entertained the thought of ONS before now, I am so fed up with trying and failing to meet someone, and I so need some excitement/adventure (ok, sex!) in my life, I have begun to entertain the idea of meeting up with someone younger, able and willing! However, my concern is safety - if you do meet up with someone for a 'hookup' how can you be sure they are not an axe murderer?? Or even, how can you be sure they wont pressure/force you into stuff you don't want to do, given the expectation is sex? Where do you meet? Is it like a date initially until both are happy? I have no idea how it all works, so any advice very welcome!

but seriously do not go on an upfront 'hook-up' site. omg. There you will get all sorts of strange and rarefied types.

Blimey. I met some OK.people on hookup sites and met dp on ourtime, what does that make me?

*PermanentTemporary *

It doesn't make you anything 🙄

OP, as others have said, take your time. Find out if any of your friends know any single men who may be up for fun. And, don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone has needs and it's up to us how we fulfill them. Good luck!