Cumming with clit

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I recently split from partner of 5 years. He's the only man I've ever came during sex with (I make myself cum with clit play whilst fucking) I never felt confident enough to do this before him but I felt really comfortable with ex dp so always did it with him.

I'm thinking about my future sexual relationships. For some reason it feels awkward doing it with someone I'm not in a relationship with. So if I had a one night stand or something 🤣

For you who are single and have fwb or have an odd one night stand do you feel shy? Or are u able to do such and maybe even dirty talk?

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Nothing wrong with adding this pleasure , it will probably add pleasure to the partner that you are with, don’t be afraid to do anything that gives you pleasure.

Male viewpoint here. If I was with someone who started doing that i would not be upset or offended or have any issues with it. I would probably observe and try and learn exactly what you are doing so i was able to replicate that pleasure for you, either with my own fingers or mouth. Wether it is a long term relationship or one night stand it is important to understand the partners needs and be aware of that. Don't be afraid of it.

Nothing wrong with using your fingers or toys in the bedroom!

It can definitely add to things.

Personally, I'd try to help you along with my hands or tongue, but recognise that you know your body best.

Can't argue with the last two posts, infact I would at least from a personal perspective add, I would welcome it, it tells me what you like and saves me fumbling around wandering if I'm doing the right thing for you.

I've literally never been with a man who would have a problem with this. Generally, they just want you to come and don't care how it happens. Or are actively turned on by you touching yourself.

I love a confident lady who knows what she wants in the bedroom.

This is the only way I have ever cum. Try using the guys cock in place of your fingers for clit play, it’s amazing and gets them involved. Husband likes it as he basically watches me masturbate before having sex…

It's the only way I orgasm 95% of the time so I'm definitely going to make it happen at the appropriate time! Don't feel shy, no man is going to object to you touching yourself while he's inside you, it's great.

Playing with myself whilst having sex is a regular occurrence weather it’s with a partner or a one night stand. A few times with one night stands to spice it up I have got a toy out to use whilst having sex and most men liked it but I could tell at least 2 wasn’t keen so I stopped.

I have to say however I’ve only been brave enough to get a toy out when having a one night stand when I was drunk. I think I would be less forward going to my special draw if I was sober lol with a one nighter.

Women being comfortable enough to do what they need to do to reach O is a great turn on, and it's a shared experience.

I regret not realising that younger women were shy or afraid to say what they liked sexually, and that I was the same myself.

Communication is sexy.

No hesitation in just being me and letting the passion rule my head and my hands. As for toys, l think in a F/M situation, they are best left for solo play, it doesn’t work for me if someone else tries to “drive”.

As InkHeart2024 indicated, only 18% of women can orgasm from penetration sex alone. Clitoral stimulation must often be added to penetration sex; therefore, there is nothing to be shy about. A bullet vibrator is very compact, and it can be very convenient for stimulating the clitoris while he is pumping you with his penis. The reverse cowgirl position provides convenient access to stimulate your clitoris while you ride his penis.

No one can make me cum so I always pull out a toy and sort myself! Can't trust a man to do the job properly, not in my experience anyway!!!!

In this case, it may not be possible for a man to do it properly because the statistics don't lie. Anyway, your solution works.

@NCDailyGame that's a really sad fact, guess noone has taken the time to get to understand what you need properly. Watching and observing a partner is so important x

To clarify, I meant that the statistics don't lie about only 18% of women being able to orgasm by penetration sex alone. Clitoral stimulation definitely should be added in, and it is often necessary for the woman to indicate to the man about how to do it.

I'm actually the opposite.
When I'm with a one night stand or FWB I really don't care as much about what he thinks or whether he approves. I just do what I want. I'm much more assertive.

When I really like someone, I tend to care a great deal about not offending him or making him feel insecure. So it's much harder to take my pleasure into my own hands, because I fear that he might take it as me not being happy with his performance.

It took me 5 years to muster the courage start doing that with my husband.

I have used toys with people that I’m not in a relationship with before.. they’ve always been really turned on by it. I refuse to not enjoy sex and part of that is that I cum too, if I don’t cum, neither do they 😉