Feel like a dog on heat

[Ilovr]

I have been experiencing this incredibly high sex drive lately, I just want to do it all the time. I wish my DH felt the same, like I wish he could just rip my clothes every chance he gets but I think it's starting to annoy him that I'm all over him so much, wanting it all the time. So he will say no, you need to stop and then i feel so bad. Like I'm sex pest. I don't know if it's hormones or what, arg..

I'm presuming that you are female @Ilovr ?
How old are you? The fluctuating hormones in perimenopause can do this to you. It's amazing if you are both interested in more sex, but it's a bugger if he is not. It can be quite distracting trying to carry on as normal when your hormones are raging. It seems for some women the feelings can be quite long lasting, but for others, they report that as they move towards the menopause, the hormones settle and the horny feelings calm down. From a health point of view, keeping blood flowing into your pelvis/vagina through partnered or solo sex is meant to be really beneficial as we get older. Enjoy yourself!

@JoyfulincolourI'm 30. I guess I will just have to ride it out till it settles down. Hopefully it will settle down abit soon. It's all I can think about during the day. Guess sex pleasure will just have do when my husband is not interested

Self pleasure I meant* sorry

You might want to consider getting a toy. Perhaps a clitoris sucker would work. The Womanizer company makes several different clitoris sucking toys, and they even make a compact one that looks like a lipstick case.

I just turned 30 and the same, could have written this myself!

Are you taking any hormonal contraceptives, or have you recently stopped taking them, as that can change things.

I'm the exact same, the dreams I have been having are ridiculous and I'm in a constant state of arousal. Unfortunately in a sexless marriage but hoping to change that, how I'm not sure rejection might tip me over the edge.

@Crocsforlife hope you find the fulfillment you seek 😜

I came on to write a similar post!

I am mid 30s and recently cannot get enough of my DH, this is after a years of me having a very low sex drive.

We are having sex every day if not multiple times a day but I worry he will get sick of it once the novelty has worn off.

He came to bed last night and I made my intentions very clear and he said no he had to get up early for work. I tried to get him going but he flat told me no!!!

I now feel bad because this is obviously what I did to him for years when my sex drive was low.

Self love not the same!! It's him I want.

There must be something in the water! 😂 I joke but it's really not nice if you & your partner have mismatched sex drives. Its obviously not perimenopause if you're in your 30s. It is strange when the sexual urges kick in as they can become very distracting/consuming mentally.

@pebblebeach160 I dream of being in the situation your DH is. Hope he realises how lucky he is right now and takes full advantage!

Urgh…I feel exactly the same and it’s been going on for ages…years. I used to take the pill but when I stopped everything went haywire. I always want to have sex with poor poor DH. He does NOT like it, he does think I’m a sex pest, there is no happy maximum for me 🤣. It’s all a bit of a disaster really!

I hate that feeling of being the one always wanting it and being rejected, have stopped asking now, but can really get you down. I know she loves me, but the lack of physical affection (not just sex) really affects my mood, and self pleasing is just not the same.

Well yes @GarrynotsoGorilla…it does sometimes get me down, and it’s particularly galling that most of my female friends complain of the opposite! Libido mismatch is rubbish, and I have mixed feelings about wanting to have sex all the time. It’s very distracting at best.

Saying that DH and I talk so we both understand and respect each other, and he tries his best - not that it’s an ordeal, at least, I don’t think it is 😁

@ISpyNoPlumPie it is great you are still talking about it, I think it would be far from an ordeal to be fair, but you can never truly appreciate what is happening in the mind of a partner!
So how distracting are you finding it? Are you literally going about your day needing to repeatedly orgasm and having to sort yourself or is it just with him that you need it?

Lol, when I started this thread, I thought I'm alone in this. That, I'm the only one experiencing such. I'm glad I'm not alone. I told him to just bear with me at me at times, that I know at times I can be too much.

If he is not feeling like penetration sex when you are aroused, you might suggest that the both of you participate in mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation can be beneficial if there is consent and agreement between the partners. In mutual masturbation, both partners are in the same room when it occurs. The partners may participate in each other’s masturbation, or each partner may just face each other and masturbate separately. In the participation scenario, the partners will be lying on the bed side by side. The man would turn his head towards the woman and lick and/or suck her nipple. He could massage her breasts and kiss her and touch her sensitive zones. The woman could reach over to the man’s penis and stroke it tenderly. She could also use a bullet vibrator to stimulate her clitoris. The man could also aid in the orgasm by tracing a bullet vibrator in a circle around her clitoris, either with the clitoral hood in place or with the clitoral hood pulled back. For the orgasm climax, the woman could use clitoral stimulation to orgasm. The man could use penis stroking to climax and ejaculate. Therapists recommend mutual masturbation to build intimacy in the couple, and it also allows the couple to learn the best arousal methods for both partners. To see sex therapist Helena Nista's YouTube video on this, go to YouTube; and search for:

What Is Mutual Masturbation & How To Do It

@TruthSeeker12345 I'm trying and failing to think of a situation when I'd be up for that but not sex! To me that would just be a form of sex sometimes.

@GarrynotsoGorilla when I'm feeling sexually frustrated it would all be because I am wanting one specific person. No one else would do! HTH

A main benefit of mutual masturbation is that it is really about seeing in-person what arouses your partner. "Regular" sex does not always do that, and it does not always build intimacy like mutual masturbation. Being up for something is not necessarily the same thing as being willing to learn.

Oh ok. So you are referring to if your partner doesn't know what turns you on. Fair enough. We don't have that problem so that's probably why I'd consider it the same thing!

I'm assuming the women's partners on here also know what gets them going. Hence why they want all the sex 😂

Mutual masturbation is also about discovery. You may think that you know just the right way to stroke a woman's clitoris, but her spot may be "just a little farther to the left".

I really don't think that's the issue here though 😂😂 re read the thread!

Yes, my DH knows how to get me off he just doesn’t have the same urge to do it all the time like I do! I’d be up for mutual masturbation as a form or discovery or low-pressure physical connection, he just isn’t.

I’d always prefer to have sex with DH, but needs must, I can sort myself out. It just doesn’t quite meet the need. I think I really crave physical intimacy and I just don’t get it as often as need. Commiserating with you all who feel the same!!