Zero sex drive ruining my relationship

[rainbowbaby2]

Since I had my son 3 years ago, I've had zero sex drive. It's gone up and down but I'm never in the mood. It's not dh, it's that I genuinely just don't care about it. I had quite a deep tear and I sometimes find sex uncomfortable but I don't know if it's because I'm tensing up and worrying about it. I've had pelvic floor physio and multiple checks and everything down there is really healthy and normal.
I'm also on sertraline so I'm wondering if this is what's causing it. I am 6 months pregnant too but I was like this before my pregnancy. I did have a pregnancy last year too that ended up 13 weeks and I had to have a d&c which I was awake for. I'm wondering if all these things are contributing.
Is there anything I can do to help things along?
It's honestly ruining my relationship and I feel so bad for dh as he feels so unloved. I avoid any affection in case it leads to something more, which is just awful. I was never like this when we first met. We've been together for 7 years this year.
Any advice, tips most welcome.

It will return, sometimes greater than your partners, so look our DH!

Hang on in there gal it does get better xx

You are absolutely taking the right first steps and acknowledging that you aren't feeling comfortable. Just keep talking to your D, keep showing your affection to him in other ways, kisses, cuddles, maybe the odd HJ... Explain your feelings to him, that's important. As long as he feels loved the sex might not be the biggest issue for him, obviously you have had some to be pregnant again! Good luck x

This sounds normal but I would talk to your dh about it you are pregnant again so sex has obviously happened not to long ago having 2 children close together is also going to be exhausting to you so be kind to yourself and just keep communicating with your Dh over it

Sertraline is considered one of the worst antidepressants for causing sexual dysfunction and loss of libido in both men and women. There are a few studies about the use of L-citrulline to overcome these effects. It has been amazingly successful for me for sure. It is an amino acid and is well tolerated. My wife is postmenopausal and had 4 back surgeries in the same time frame. Her loss of libido was severe. She used 750 mg of L-Citrulline every 4 hours and successfully reversed the issue. I also am on sertraline and used the same dosage and it also worked well for me in overcoming the effects of the sertraline.

I'm sure the Sertraline is a huge part of this. You've been through such a lot. Would it be worth going to the GP to ask to try different medication?