First time cuckold this week

[Southsiderunner]

Hi
ive been with my wife for 25 years, married for 16. We have 2 kids 14 and 9. Since I can remember I’ve had a fantasy involving my wife and other men, I believe this fantasy has always helped keep the bedroom spark alive.

for the last 5-6 years we’ve really enjoyed roll play with larger toys and my wife has started to enjoy fulfilling my submissive side. I had asked a few random times before about trying another guy for real and without flat out saying no, she just said she doesn’t think she would like it, until a couple of months ago. I just randomly dropped into a convo that we should have a shopping trip away and hire a male escort for a treat which she replied to with a “yeah sounds good”!
fast forward and we’re 4 days away and the guy is all booked up. He’s very well endowed and comes highly recommended, he says he regularly does porn shoots and knows what he’s doing.
i guess my question is for first timers, male and female, any advice for the night and also any thing that you didn’t enjoy that u thought u would or did enjoy that u thought u wouldn’t? I’m trying to cover all angles in my head so things run smoothly.

I know my wife loves me so any jealous feeling I’m sure I can cope with, im also a confident man and think I can cope with this guy giving my wife a better time in bed than I can, I’m not deluded. Anyone felt like this but was proved wrong?
what are your regrets if any?

thanks and merry christmas

One test of how you react to the situation is seeing sex pics or videos. I have some explicit ones taken by an ex. OH loves them, not all people would.

Good point this.

Before we got started we fooled around on a webcam chat site together as a couple, chatting with other couples etc. When we started chatting with one random, really endowed guy, it slowly became just the two of them and I was very much a third wheel in that conversation. Looking back that was one of our first steps into this dynamic.

Now OP has admitted that this thread was just a fantasy, it's interesting to note that the posters who suspected this from the start got told off by others who assumed, wrongly, that OP was genuine. Why are there always people jumping in to say that random men posting their sex fantasies on a parenting website should be treated as genuine?

Same goes for the ones who said that it didn't sound like the OP's wife had consented very enthusiastically. This in fact was the case, since she never consented at all. No doubt part of the fantasy for the OP was his wife suddenly out of the blue saying "I have changed my mind and do suddenly want to engage with the desires you've been pestering me about for ages". Posters knew this was unrealistic. Why do others feel these aren't valid responses to what was clearly a made up scenario?

You sound very wise for someone who can’t detect sarcasm my friend 😂 . The “OP” and his wife just had a very nice overnight stay in a local hotel to try make up for our disappointment from the cancelled flight. I will now give people a day or 2 to catch up on the last couple comments and then will delete the thread to save myself getting wound up and replying to people that play guessing games. I wish you all a happy new year and I may repost when the scenario has a chance to play out again x

Of course.

You are so rude. What do you know what is true or false and if so, why does it matter to you. We are on this page to be non judgemental. Would you like strangers to be so judgey about your life and tell you that you are untruthful. You sound very bitter. Focus on your own life if you can't be pleasant about other's lives!

The OP admitted that the whole story was made up.

Don't worry about her, don't let her get to you whatever you do. You get people like this on this forum, just remember that they're all strangers and know nothing about you, your wife, your life. You'll never meet her in real life, so just stay on here, don't let people belittle you, and keep posting as there will be nice responses and not silly little playground girls.

Why don’t you go ask on reddit?… I hate that this sex board is dominated by men

One man posted. Hardly been dominated by men, is it? Why can't men talk to women about such things, they want a female perspective don't they. It's almost 2025 and men are allowed to use their voices

Perhaps women would like to use their voices on this board without worrying they will get pervy PMs. And yes, far more men post on this board than women.

If they get pervy pm's then they can block them or report them to admin. I have come across one and I reported it and he was blocked. I disagree with you on the last part, there's more men than women on here though. But that's just my opinion. All men aren't perverts. Most of us are in a relationship with men, have a brother, a dad, etc.

Women shouldn't have to block and report pervy PMs. Men shouldn't send them. How about the men take some responsibility.

It’s not just one man posting. I see it all the time on here… mostly in replies to women OPs.

Of course men are allowed to use their voices, it’s just funny that you never hear them on any other part of this website

Someone that speaks sense, I like you tammy 😂. I have a boy and I teach him respect and hope he grows up like me. Respectful and polite. I have had one sexual partner my whole life, and I’ve had plenty of offers down the years and still do get attention from time to time. Not all men are monsters. Apologies to the woman who have lost faith in men! I have had to block numerous men that have sent pms on this thread, rank messages in lots of detail so I do understand how gross some men are but please don’t paint us all the same. Pretty pointless me writing this really, people don’t really change their opinions do they? Lots of people will think I’m lying, that’s fine. really doesn’t matter what people online think does it, it’s all about the people in your life and what they think of you, still nice to be nice tho, feels good. Take care.

Unfortunately this won’t change, the internet has all types. Don’t take offence to idiots and just block and repeat.

You too! Happy New Year! Don't listen to the Karen's 😆 😂 x

With respect, I post on these threads sometimes,I have opinions and occasionally experience that may be useful,try never to be disrespectful, but also often post in other threads particularly mental health, the Aibu threads, books , housing etc so some men definitely do post on other parts of the website

Don't let women put you off posting. We all need to let off steam and ask for advice, we are all humans. Men do not talk enough.

When people say that men "don't talk enough", I don't think they are referring to posting elaborate fantasies about sex adventures against their wife's will on a parenting forum, furiously wanking over the responses from women, and then coming up with an equally elaborate reason why they have to go through the same masturbatory palaver in a couple of months.

Men talk plenty on this topic.

You are disgusting. Yuk. Don't tar your experiences with every man you have met. Get a grip and stop being so judgemental. Are you a feminist by any chance.

And?

I don't take anyone who uses 'Karen' as an insult seriously.

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I also hate all the pervy men writing out their weird fantasies on here for women to read. And the unsolicited pm 🤮