I’m frustrated…

[ABrewAndAKazoo]

So I’ve been single for over 4 years now with no end in sight. I’ve spent my time looking after DS and working so I haven’t had much time nor privacy to seek any sort of intimacy or relationship. I just miss sex to be honest. It has been so long and I don’t feel I’m getting any younger. I’ve only had two long term relationships and that’s it (I’m 38 currently). I feel like there is so much to experience and I just haven’t, I am 99% sure I’m bi sexual, and I haven’t even got a clue where I would look to take that further. I know tinder is the place to be these days (or other such apps) but I have a few qualms about them, one being, I feel like I’m out in the open on dating apps, plus I then start to worry if I’m being selfish and not putting DS first. I don’t think I want any sort of relationship because that brings with it a bag of worms with DS and at the moment I’m happy being alone (besides the no sex). Not really sure what the point of this post is, I just want to vent I guess. I don’t see a simple solution to my problems so I’ll shout into the aether

Tinder is not the only online place to be, and may not be the best for you?
Two thoughts:

• look for an online site that matches your choices, e.g. match.com for FWB / long-term relationships, tinder for multiple encounters, gleeden or ashley madison for "discretion" (for all sorts of reasons, but also includes infidelity)
• Determine and then describe clearly what you are interested in. From your description, I'd guess FWB: not a relationship, yet not constantly chasing another one-night stand.

Mumsnet should have a hookup section for genuine long term members.

Oh dear.....

I didn’t realise match.com was still a thing? Shows how much I know. Isn’t ashley madison for people looking to exclusively cheat?

Feeld is the app you may be interested in. It's for hook ups/fwb/ threesomes etc. Its a similar format to Tinder but everyone knows what they're after and will say.

Women are perfectly able to use hookup apps if that's what they are looking for. Why on earth would people come to a parenting forum to hookup (other than creepy men who prey on single mums)?

Dating sites that once did the trick are lacking these days. You can't go wrong with iBone Social and Shagslam. Those two sites will get you quicks dates.

It did for a bit!

There was a sex chat thread that was very controversial and eventually was removed.

It was entertaining while it lasted, had a lot of posts. I met a handful of woman on it, but I'm not surprised it was removed, more surprised it lasted as long as it did...

Feeld

There are women out there who've gotten what they wanted from Tinder/Feeld etc but my brief experience was men getting what they wanted, with no interest in my desires/safety/etc Basically, it isn't safe and men ruin it for themselves and everyone. I remain unconvinced they have any respect for women's sexual desires (or simply women themselves) outside of a loving relationship. Or maybe I was unlucky....
But regarding women, I think you'll have way more luck, and try these sites, you can hide your face esp on Feeld and people will understand.