Nervous to sleep with someone new

[matilda1077]

For context I'm almost 30 and have only slept with 3 people. I've always been in a relationship with anyone I have slept with and therefore always been comfortable.

I've come out of an 11 year relationship earlier this year and have been chatting to someone. I don't particularly want to be in a relationship, more of a FWB no strings attached kind of thing. But the thing is, i feel so NERVOUS. The thought of him seeing my body, what if im no good? What if he's slept with loads of girls and im inexperienced in comparison? I just feel really worked up about it but i know I need to rip the band aid off or it'll never happen any advice?

Having sex with someone new after that period was of time will be making you feel this way it's the case of jump on give it a go have some fun if it doesn't go as well as expected it's fine move on and try again

Feel the nerves and go for it anyway. Completely natural feelings after a long relationship. I think it's actually very healthy that you're not too attached as if it doesn't work out you can shift focus onto the next with no broken heart- tho do be careful with theirs too. But you are freee agent now- go and have fun.

Man here. He may not be as experienced as you think he may be. He will also likely be very nervous. He will be hoping and crossing his fingers that he, Ahem, rises to the occasion when required. He will also no doubt be delighted that he's in bed, with a woman who wants to be with him and she has shown up naked (hopefully). You will probably both be nervous. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself.

It’s like diving in the pool from a high diving board. Once you have done it, you are in!

For every person seeing you naked, you are seeing them naked too. So relax about your body.

Get out there and have a lovely time, don’t let emotions rule your head, let passion lead you. Don’t go back for more with anyone selfish in bed. To conclude, 4 words, smart women carry condoms.

Just take your time. Explain to him your feelings. If he is experienced and mature he will take it at your pace. If he doesn't show maturity and patience then I'd rethink the possibility of him becoming a FWB.

If it is a FWB scenario then as long as you enjoy yourselves it doesn't really matter. If either one of you feels the other isn't what they are looking for then no loss no foul, just move on.

Thank you all for boosting my confidence!!! I will report back

As previous Mums netters have said he may not be experienced as you think. It is always difficult for the first time. Take it easy a step at a time. You will be both nervous but if it is not as expected on the first occasion do not feel disappointed just go with the flow.
Good idea to tell your partner what you like and dislike before you both commence.
Good luck OP.

Sexy isn’t a body type or a gymnastic display of positions. It’s a confident woman smiling at him as she takes her dress off.

Inside you might be screaming “Oh god, what about my stretch marks?” but outside you’re exuding Ditta von Tease sex goddess. And, trust me, he’ll be ecstatic. Just go with the flow and enjoy it.

You’re bound to be nervous being with someone new after a long time. The best advice is to just go for it and enjoy yourself. Since you’re only looking for FWB and no emotional attachment if it’s not what you want then you can just move onto someone else.

Even if he is experienced, he's not going to be experienced with YOU. We're all different and like different things. The first time might be awkward at times but just relax and enjoy it.