Without condoms, advice needed

[Hotchocolatewithsprinkles]

I've been in a loving, committed relationship with a wonderful man for around a year. We have always used condoms but have recently discussed trying it without them. He's never had sex without condoms before and have been thinking we'd like to try it.
From a man's pov, does it feel better without condoms? Is there a big difference?
Also, looking for advice on the most reliable alternative contraception. He doesn't really like the thought of me taking pills, although I wouldn't mind.
I'm in my early 40s with no health problems.

It’s not down to him whether for not you take pills, if you’re not using condoms as contraception then you will need to take the pill or find another form
of contraception. Although less likely in your early 40’s, you could still fall pregnant.

Does it feel better? I personally can’t feel much difference, but any guy will say it feels better without but I think that’s just psychological more than anything else but it’s certainly less hassle and is less mood killing.

also, I’d be amazed if your OH has never had sex without a condom. Assuming he’s of a similar age to you I’d think it was incredibly unlikely. He wants you to feel special and feel like you'll
be the first which is sweet but I wouldn’t take it at face value.

How about a coil? Copper or hormone-based.

Its definitely psychological ime.
Once having sex the condom fully split and we basically didn't have one on at all. My partner came inside me and when he pulled out we saw what had happened. Neither of us could tell at all.
He was pissed off - he said "If I had known I would have enjoyed it more"....

Make it make sense

The Mirena coil is good for contraception. Before going condom free, I made my husband and previous serious partners go for std panel tests. I went too. Just for reassurance, and DH really respected this.

Different contraception works differently for each woman. There's different pills, the injection, the coil which I wouldn't touch with a barge pole, the implant and the female condom.
I'm done having children so we use condoms as I feel more comfortable with the barrier, I don't want to put pills or a foreign object in my body and/or have my periods messed up and it's cleaner.
In general, if you don’t want a baby a lot of people use a ccondom even if the woman is on the pill so there's a backup. It's not that much different with or without.

I agree with you re: the coil. It’s horrible to have it put in (so I’ve heard) and an absolute nightmare trying to get someone to take it out if you change your mind.

Absolutely. And a lot of women are just given the pill if it messes with their periods which defeats the object. I don't know why they're so reluctant to remove it, almost feels violating and that doesn't appeal to me. I'd rather pull it out myself.

Think carefully before you get something like that coil you'll struggle to get it removed if you do
Theirs the pill patch etc but it's what works for your body personally me and dh don't use condoms I like our connection is better during sex without it , I have used the pill before myself and had to try many different ones I stopped using contraception years ago and we work around ovulation I pay close attention to my body and signs and cycles this is obviously not fool proof though so not wise if your not careful
Which can happen to anyone