Myself and my partner sex life has really really dwindled since having children, who are 3 and 5. I had a lot of health complications after my second child. I have endoemtriosis adenomyosis and had ovarian cysts. I've had a mirena coil to help but still experience pain when we try to have sex.
But aside from that, what I'm finding is that the spark is just gone from our sex life. It just feels so awkward and forced and doesn't help that it also hurts sometimes. I've lost all my confidence since having children. I think I get in my head too much then that it's not working and I just can't let go. It doesn't help that my partner also never initiates having sex so that makes me feel a bit frustrated and concerned as I feel like he should be trying more.
The last couple of times we have tried its just been not good and either ended quickly or just not happened at all. Can anyone please advise on what we can do to improve the situation as its really getting me down as I really do enjoy sex but not enjoying it at all at the moment.