I've been seeing a bloke for a couple of months but we haven't had sex yet. I've wanted to, but he seemed a bit reluctant so I haven't pushed it as I figured there's no need to rush if he isn't ready.
It's looking like it might now happen this week as he has brought it up and said he wants to but he's being really fucking weird about it.
He said he wants to be touched but isn't touching me yet because he wants to see if he can "control his emotions" and it's a "test"
I asked whether he's worried about being judged on his performance or something and he insists thats not the case.
I then asked him to elaborate, he hasn't, and he has now gone off to work. I don't expect I'll hear from him until late tomorrow.
I'm feeling very put off and don't think I want to sleep with him at all now if that's what it's going to be like. How could it possibly be enjoyable if he's just laying there like an ironing board? What about my own pleasure?
I've just sent him a message saying pretty much what I've written above.
WTF do you think that is all about?