Squirting: how to make it happen?

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I’m single right now, so this isn’t something I can practice with someone immediately, but for the future when I meet someone I have chemistry with, I’m looking for some tips.

I’ve not been with anyone who was particularly good at sex or being a satisfying lover for a long time (unfulfilling long term relationship). I’m a fully grown adult nearing 40 but the last time I had an earth shattering orgasm was when I was a teenager, and it only happened once. This is an awful level of sexual satisfaction and I really want this to change.

This orgasm I remember having made me squirt, which felt incredible. It made me scream. It was a complete loss of control. I can’t quite remember the details but it might have involved me being tied up so I didn’t writhe away from him. The man made it happen with his hands, he rubbed my clit and I think 3 or 4 fingers inside me. He possibly pushed up slightly, I’m not sure. It was a long time ago.

I don’t use sex toys because when I was younger I found that human touch wouldn’t work afterwards and I didn’t want a situation where I could only get pleasure from a vibrator. So I stopped using them. They never resulted in a squirt anyway.

Are there any techniques that work for you regarding squirting?

I think psychology is important and having a sexual partner I am really into and attracted to would probably help.

Google is your friend. Probably with a private browser.

Very relaxed.
Partner who knows my body well.
Completely and utterly focused on me.
Mind completely absorbed in the moment.

Totally relaxed stare of mind, after a long bath/shower
Full body massage with essential oils and to include of secral chakra/perineum/g-spot/clitoris.

I mainly squirt from my husband fingering me, sometimes intercourse. I can orgasm other ways but they are the only way I will squirt. My husband will insert one finger and push up towards my belly. He says it feels defined against the rest of my vagina. Then just a quick motion while his finger is in a hooked shape. Once I've got used to one finger, he will use a second finger which feels even more intense but that's all I can comfortably have inside me.

Yes, I definitely need to be really relaxed and in the mood. DH uses his fingers in a curved motion rubbing against my g-spot. It think that’s fairly typical. Starts slow but then it becomes really intense and he MUST NOT STOP 😆. Strangely, I don’t want to do it all the time - it’s just too much, afterwards I can’t talk/move/anything. Plus, don’t want to have to change the sheets every time…

Stimulation of the G-Spot can produce arousal that leads to squirting. Squirting is the rapid flow of the female ejaculate out of the urethra. This is not urination, but it may give the woman the sensation that she is going to urinate before it happens.In squirting, a usually clear fluid is fed into the urethra. It is not urine. When the G-Spot is aroused, the fluid can be released into the urethra.The fluid can come out in a stream from the urethra, hence the name squirting. The G-Spot needs firm pressure. In order to find the G-Spot, initial arousal is necessary. The G-Spot is located 2 to 3 inches up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra. It can be manually located by inserting 2 curled fingers into the vagina and using a “come here” motion. Once the spot is located, deliberate, direct pressure is used, building the intensity. Many women find that pressing just above the pubic bone while stimulating the G-Spot internally is needed. Since pressure is being applied, it produces a feeling that she is about the urinate.

Slow and really really deep penetration for me lol normally missionary with legs as far back as they go. With a man is better but a long toy does it or when my current partner wears a sleeve.

G-Spot stimulation does not usually require deep penetration. Only a penetration of about 3 inches is needed. However, according to what I have read on the web, cervical orgasms can also produce some wetness. Cervical orgasms can be achieved with deep penetration in the missionary position with legs spread back, and they are full body orgasms. This appears to relate to what you are describing.

Yep that’s how I achieve them 😀

Squirting usually requires some degree of g spot stimulation - the classic “beckoning” motion of fingers against the front vaginal wall. I find it also helps if my pelvis is tilted slightly, typically with a cushion under my bum. Was quite surprised on a recent playdate when I didn’t think it was going to happen but the guy pushed my knees back towards my chest and the floodgates opened!

If you’re trying to squirt with toys, the njoy is highly recommended. The curve on it is just right.

Lola Jean’s blog is worth a read…
https://lolajean.com/writing/2021/7/23/how-to-make-someone-squirt

The key is you have to be willing to loose control. Get into that mindset, you have to let it overcome you and don’t pull it back. The feeling is magical and the look on your partners face is priceless. Good luck. It’s my fave thing to do.