Wanting more

[AmandeFrance0979]

Just woken up and wished it wasn't just OH and me in this bed. Would love to have a woman here with hubby and me so all three could play together. AIBU?

No

Yes!

Yes, she's being unreasonable?

Sounds fun, what does your husband think and what would you say if the roles were reversed and he wanted a man to join you? Sounds like a nice fantasy, do you have any one in mind? If not join the long list of couples looking for a woman to join them.

@everywhichway .... not at all; sounds idyllic for a Saturday morning 😁

'Play' together? Are you real or a 13yr old trying to re-enact some porn scene?

The word 'play' is often used in relation to sex, as in the word 'foreplay'. But I'm more concerned that when you think of porn, 13 year old children come into your mind. Is there something wrong with you?

Think you need to share this with your husband not Mumsnet unless I've missed something.

It sounds like you've missed something. Have you ever read anything on this forum before?

I mean they're not called a unicorn for nothing - so good luck finding one.

I think I must apologise for jumping to conclusions. I had assumed this was a fantasy. It could well be something that you have done before or even regularly. Whatever, good luck to you, life is too short not to enjoy yourselves ( secretly I'm a little bit jealous)

'Am I being unreasonable?' if it's what you want then you need to ask your husband? If he says yes then go for it or if he says no, then you have to accept it or find a new relationship that works better for you. Or you just talking about this just being a fantasy? Just unsure what the problem is, you not sure how to approach it with husband?

"to sleep, perchance to dream" and then to wake in the morning and be in bed with my wife and another woman, oh joy, oh happy day.

No, you are not being unreasonable.

We must all try to be kind and considerate, to not lie or deceive and if we can operate within those guidelines, then do what you want.

Life is so short, many people who were in my life, a part of my life, have gone now. If my wife is happy about it, I would love to have another woman in our life. I have no idea why , but for the last few months now my sexual awareness has increased significantly and I want to make the most of it, you should too.
It need not be a dream, just tread carefully as you go and good luck.

I did wake up next to a woman my GF. Perhaps we are not "in-love" as when we were both married to men but there is much affection. That would be lost by introducing a third person especially if the motive was just sexual gratification. Why would we?

After 36 years of marriage I still love my wife, I also love all of my children and both my sisters and have great affection for numerous old friends, both male and female. We don't have a limited reserve of love in us, which is all used up on just one person.