If a man is living in a sexless marriage, is it possible for him to develop a sex addiction? And, even though he tries to keep it under control and addresses his ‘issues’ is he aware of his actions? He gets out of control and unaware of what he is doing but then feels enormous guilt about his behaviour the next day.
This is someone I know, who I have known a good few years now, and he is married (no kids) to an older woman who he has said a few times now that he isn’t attracted to and has been in a sexless marriage for years. His choice. He was adamant we didn’t meet btw, but we did eventually (many times). Huge guilt on his side. I know I should’ve stopped it.
It has taken me years to get things out of him. He is mid 50’s.
Im trying to piece things together and get him some help although he says he copes with it and has to live with it. He keeps himself busy on other areas - hobbies/work.
Yes, I got involved with him. Stupidly. Started as a friendship but it was pretty obvious we got on well etc. But, similar circumstances and I ended my marriage. He won’t. Not that I expect him to and, tbh, I wouldn’t trust him anyway. We are friends now but every now and then he gets ‘carried away’ when chatting on the phone or on messages. Then enormous guilt afterwards and doesn’t recall what he has said. It’s damaged my life tremendously. He then decides to stop talking to me and reverts to emails only. He is
nowhere near as bad as he was and he is aware of his actions on everyone.
He isn’t addressing the root cause of his issue.
I know I need to move on but I do, genuinely, care for him. I’m a love struck female who fell for someone I shouldn’t have.