Oral sex

[ForCheekyMauveFox]

For my ladies reading this, I have no problem going down and find it adds to my own pleasure but is a lack of oral sex a deal breaker for you? If your partner was against giving, but still expected to receive?

Just curious on the female pysche on the matter lol

I wouldn't have proceeded with him in the first place.

Do you have a tongue tie @ForCheekyMauveFox? There's a current thread which may be useful for you to look at. Though I may be barking up the wrong tree.

For me, lack of oral would not be a deal breaker, but it depends on the reason. If its down to lack of confidence or skill then I would want to encourage some learning! If the reason was something like pain from an oral issue or the person not wanting to, that would be fair enough and I could live with it as long as they were attentive in other foreplay activities, good with their hands for example

I’ve never met anybody, ever, who can achieve with their hands what they can deliver with their lips and tongue.

@ZippyCat keepon jumping 👍🏿 as they say if YIU don’t use it , u lose it….✊🏿

I’m not sure what you mean? Do i have a tongue tie? Lmao

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/sex/5289713-does-tongue-size-matter?reply=143799640

This was what I was referring to OP

Its not a deal-breaker for me though I love it.

My issue is that an ex-partner was fantastic at oral but partners since have been no where near as good.

Giving good oral is what I miss most since divorce and no relationships in the last 10 years. My ex wife and my only ex girlfriend said I was good helping them achieve multiple orgasms. I loved doing it. And I've never received a BJ or demanded one.

Perhaps I am naive but what makes great oral sex. Are there tricks a partner can use to raise it to "the next level" ? My DH needs a few tips and so do I!!

In both cases think ice lolly!

My ex used to love me making a circular motion all around the clitoris and with my mouth covering her entire vulva. Occasionally pushing my tongue into her vagina and maybe a couple of fingers. Slow and steady wins the race with allowing her to almost climax but let her come down a bit, like waves. 30 minutes or so should do the trick.

circular motion with my tongue.

If it's good for me and he dont want to go down on me. It's a deal breaker.

I know what you mean! The first time i had sex with my boyfriend, i knew that he will be the good one for me. He made me scream soooo loud with is mouth!

@Flotin if ur man knows how to play his tongue 👅, You will fly gyal….and fly fly fly again….keeping on enjoying👅✊🏿

@Tootlebum hi..I like to buld up to it, arousal,Instead of diving head-first 😉
with neck kisses, move down to the belly, slow kisses , caressesinner thighs, and all around the your vulva. Run my tongue around yiur nipples and chest. If your happy, kinkier side try some dirty talk, spanking, or role play—whatever gets them in the mood complimenting on how good you’re feeling and tasting “you making sexiest sounds , my fav tasting honey , driving me insane with lust “ 😋😜.start with missionary position but then try others..legs overhanging bed side, throw yiur legs over his shoulders…standing, with DH on his knees 😜…
Hope you’re in mood….✊🏿

I think its about knowing what you like, and guiding your OH too. Make the right noises and he will know he is doing it right. I love it when DH sucks my clit, so i will often tell him to while in the throws of passion, circling my clit with a very wet tounge is also a huge turn on, i will often use my hand and help enlarge the clit which increases the sensation. A sloppy tounge on my hard clit while being fingered at the same time is amazing for me. It really helps if you know what you like, and tell your partner too. Communication is key.

like some others on the post, I would struggle to be with a man who didn’t like to give oral. I would never expect to receive anything i wouldnt do in return.