DH New Request

[OpalGoose]

My DH has recently started asking me to try deep throat when we do oral sex. He says it's something he's often thought about but never felt comfortable asking for before now. It has caught me by surprise and thrown me a bit tbh because I thought we were both satisfied with our sex life. I don't have a long held unsatisfied desire, for instance. Sex is a private thing and I would feel uncomfortable asking friends IRL if they've had similar unexpected requests at our age. We're both 60.

It’s something he has seen on porn for sure.

do you know he is satisfied with your sex life together, or do you just assume/ guess it ?

Wanting to try something new doesn’t mean that he’s not satisfied with your sex life… the 2 aren’t mutually exclusive!

is it something you would like to/be willing to try? If so, great, give it a go and keep lines of communication open and see how it goes. If not, you simply tell him that isn’t something you feel comfortable doing and carry on as you are, you don’t have to do it just because he asked, nor does him asking mean he’s not happy with things as they are, it’s just something he has expressed an interest in trying ☺️

Agree with pp, wanting to do new things doesn’t equate to being more satisfied. I always want to try new things with dp but never seem to have the confidence to. Being able to ask you without being judged is a positive thing that you can discuss your sex life. You don’t have to feel obligated to do it if you don’t want to either.

Sorry meant being unsatisfied!

Thank you for your thoughts so far. To be clear, I am not judging DH in any way and as far as I can tell, without actually asking for a "performance score", we both enjoy our fun and healthy sex life. I think it's that he is asking this when we are both 60 that has thrown me tbh. I've not said no but not said yes either.

God why would he ask you to do something that is likely to choke you? Grim. Would he like something that size rammed down his throat? Get him to try it out first with a vibrator.

Ha ha - now that’s a great suggestion

I thought I'd surprise DH by trying it tonight. Definitely not my thing but it was interesting trying to do it and it seems to have satisfied his curiosity.

In my book, sex is something that should be shared, passionate, pleasant and should be comfortable.

This does not tick any of these boxes. Add to that his more sensitive area is not in the shaft. This sounds like pain without gain.

It's nothing to do with porn. Blokes have been asking for deep throat blow jobs since time began. If you can do it without gagging then it's all good, if it makes you gag then don't bother.

Anyone know why it’s appealing? Is it the gagging part that’s the turn on?

It's appealing to me i quite like gagging tbh. I feel a bit cleansed

I still don’t understand? Cleansed?

I can only use this analogy:

Most woman ( I’d assume ) prefer a dick when it’s deep inside you as opposed to it being shall and Some enjoy their cervix being hit

with deepthroating, the head is generally speaking, hitting the back of the throat so has a similar sensation. It feels good, at least for the man.

Thanks for explaining. Like most things in the bedroom, it’s about pleasuring men over us

This! Add to that extreme discomfort. And as for the penis hitting the cervix reference up thread, in my book this is extremely uncomfortable. Friends l have spoken to on this one agree to. Let’s have more respect from those we choose to share our bodies with.

Yuk

Tell him in return you’d like to try pegging !

I think that’s a little harsh tbh.

obviously I can’t speak for all men, and neither can I claim to have been with a man, but in my experience many woman get pleasure from giving oral, most men will give oral and surly for the most part penetrative sex is pleasurable for most woman?

and @Angela59 i bloody love pegging!

😂No way, I am really not interested in that, even as a joke.

Trust me your not alone!

There is a huge difference between giving a man oral, l enjoy that and actually find it comforting (maybe l was deprived of a dummy as a kid) and having something shoved down your throat.

The suction thing at the dentist is bad enough.

It’s something I give to my dp when I want to; not when he asks for it. Just a few mins is fine for me doing this and I know he loves it. I get alot of pleasure from giving him oral and also from everything he does for me. It’s basically a treat from me bestowed on him when I feel like it, it’s no way expected every time.
@OpalGoose did he enjoy it or say anything after about it?

Of course there is, however, I wasn’t referencing deep throating….

Ah, l see! That was the main subject of the thread though, so, hopefully, you can see why l thought that.

He did enjoy it, he was grinning like a Cheshire cat and pleasantly surprised I tried it. He also knows it was the one and only time because it is definitely not my thing.