Sex only when nobody is home

[Marcymarcc]

Married with three kids, two older teenagers and a younger child. The two teenagers both have partners and my wife and I have recently started to hear quite a bit of noise coming from the bedroom when we are downstairs. Anyway, wife and I were having sex the other night and she isn’t screaming the house down but she’s quite vocal and it made her say that she doesn’t want to have sex when the teenagers are home incase they can hear us. Pretty frustrating as they always seem to be home, even the other night we went out without them and wife was quite touchy on the way and said the kids are out so when we get home we can have sex and be ‘normal’, no less than 5 mins later we get a call to say they are both on the way home and will be in before us. Before our youngest we would have nights away but our youngest hates sleepovers.
I tried explaining how it makes me feel that we can’t have sex now and how important it is to me but she just doesn’t get it. I need that passionate sex as it’s more than just having sex to me and it’s the connection and more.

Would you trust the older teens to look after your younger child whilst you and your wife have nights away?

Going off piste here a bit …

If your wife is a willing participant would you both find it compatible to ask a local hotel for a “day rate” room and sneak away for an afternoon together?

"DayUse" is a great app if you're U.K. based. Loads of hotels across the country with use of all facilities usually.....it's a win for the hotels and it's a win for you when time is limited....

We have also used Day Use. I can really recommend it 😀.

Probably wouldn’t trust the teens with our younger one, in the day they would be fine but probably not over night.

I mentioned that site and maybe that would work potentially. That’s for suggesting

We’re in the exact same position will older teens and two younger children. We found having a lock on the bedroom door and leaving the tv on or music on to drown out any noise helps.

But at the end off the day the way I see it there’s worse things they could hear and realise there parent still love/want each other. They could be hearing you shouting screaming at each other with is much worse 🤷‍♀️

Perhaps it's all about the timing. Choosing the moment, so to speak. I can't remember if this crossed our minds when ours were younger. We usually had sex late at night or, early in the morning anyway. But as someone already said, it's not the end of the world if someone in the house hears, and it'll probably blow over quickly if they do.

Perhaps it's all about the timing. Choosing the moment, so to speak. I can't remember if this crossed our minds when ours were younger. We usually had sex late at night or, early in the morning anyway. But as someone already said, it's not the end of the world if someone in the house hears, and it'll probably blow over quickly if they do.

It's bloody awkward kids are always around and somehow seem to want to know what you are doing all the time. Can't you just try a quickie in the toilet downstairs has to be better than a poke in the eye