Ed

[notmyname1]

My and my partner have been having a few issues lately around Ed it has happened before but this time it is lasting a lot longer.

every time I can't help but blame myself he reasures me it isn't so I do try and not react to it in a bad way to make him feel worse.

this time he has gone to the Dr's because of the length of time it has been happening for I also think this is to prove it is nothing me or him are causing.

He has now started to not have this issue anymore and now I can't help but think again that it was caused by something he was doing or that he wasn't interested in me.
I dont want to just flip out and make him feel worse for the situation but can't help but have a little doubt

Unfortunately men have nowhere to hide when it comes to ED , it could be almost anything, stress, worry, health, performance anxiety.
if you have ED once it will play on you mind and become a self fulfilling prophecy,
as he is not particularly old or has high BP or any other health issues he will probably be given some meds to use that will probably help get things working again

So it was an issue, he went to the doctors and got checked out, the doctor gave him advice or a prescription and now it's not an issue anymore.
Are you over thinking OP?

Thank you for the responses I should have included the Dr's have said they can't see any reason for this but is booked in for bloods to get a better idea of what is going on
The bloods appointment isn't until another week away
So I think with everything working as it should all of a sudden
(before the advice from the Dr is given after the blood results)
I'm now worried there was something causing this and won't tell me what

I would obviously love to just be able to speak to him about this and have sort of tried to bring it up but he doesnt give me much but its definitely not me
don't want to make him feel bad or guilty if it can't be helped and feel like the way I might word it could come across harsher than it's ment so wanted opinions from others before approaching properly
If yous can give me your opinions and experiences it can either put my mind to rest and save me upsetting him for no reason or confirm I have a reason to doubt and then speak to him

I experienced this with two partners when I was much younger, in the first couple of months of the relationship, caused by anxiety I think. They both got over it when they started to feel more secure with me.

We have been together just over 2 years and this problem has just started only say the past month or so

If he has the all clear from Dr’s it’s in his head ( commonly is ) , could be money, work, relationships - family, almost anything

I suffered from ED when I was made redundant with a young family and big mortgage- nothing to do with my partner or relationship or anything physically related- was all my head

Thank you so much for your reply it has really helped put my mind to rest
I feel awful everytime it happens because I know how bad it makes him feel but at the same time can't help but think of the worst case
I have very low confidence which doesn't help my reaction but never want him to feel like he's not enough which is also why I don't want to question him to much on it

Viagra connect is available over the counter - maybe something to try?