Will it get better?

[Drunkskunkbat]

I have been seeing someone for 5 months, I had a huge crush on him before we got together so was fantasising about how great the sex would be and couldn’t wait to jump on him. Anyway…..it’s been nothing like I imagined, he seems pretty selfish and seems to cum very quickly before I have and then doesn’t help me finish. With previous partners this has been ok because they have been able to go again but he doesn’t, once he’s done that it 🙄. I have introduced toys to the bedroom and he bought me a new toy, a couple times I have managed to cum but usually he cums first and assumes I have too. We only see each other once every 2 weeks, sometimes one e a week if I’m lucky. This weekend we tried something new (me being Dom) but this just made him cum even quicker and it was pretty much over after 5 minutes. He is quite a bit older than me, I’m 42 and he’s 56 but I don’t think that has anything to do with it? How can I make him last longer and get him to finish me off first? Or am I flogging a dead horse?

My sex drive is pretty high and I’m feeling pretty frustrated and have even considered getting sex elsewhere.

From a man’s point of view viagra would definitely improve and prolong things plus obviously give a much stronger erection , also delay wipes maybe also help.
I think the bigger issue is he not proactive in finding a solution and clearly not aware of your needs and the need to pleasure you , very selfish.

Viagra doesn't increase libido, nor does it delay orgasm - It might make a guy stay hard after he has finished but he needs to WANT to carry on which by the sounds of things he wont.

TBH it sounds as if he's just not that interested in sex.

Id prefer to make mrs D cum first then me second and then it's time to sleep as usually cream crackered after that . All the women I've been with over the years they all say it's not always that easy for women to orgasm through sex

Cumming first then her going to the toilet and then coming back and all that wouldn't really work

I can orgasm through sex and 4play (when done correctly). He just cums way too quickly, not giving me enough time to come close to finishing. I’m used to being with men that can go at least 2 times 😬. I know age maybe a factor and fitness.

Cialis may help.

I think you do need to sit down & communicate this to him quite directly. He needs to know that it's not ok for him to finish & leave you wanting, otherwise he will possibly think that youre both having a great time & getting what you need from it. There is a good book written by a sex therapist/counsellor (Ian Kerner) called She Comes First. Obviously, your partner needs to read this, not you. Also, have you tried condoms to see if that reduces some of his sensitivity? And as a PP said, if he was to masturbate earlier in the day, prior to you being together, would that slow him down a bit?

I think you do need to sit down & communicate this to him quite directly. He needs to know that it's not ok for him to finish & leave you wanting, otherwise he will possibly think that youre both having a great time & getting what you need from it. There is a good book written by a sex therapist/counsellor (Ian Kerner) called She Comes First. Obviously, your partner needs to read this, not you. Also, have you tried condoms to see if that reduces some of his sensitivity? And as a PP said, if he was to masturbate earlier in the day, prior to you being together, would that slow him down a bit?

Twice 😳

Crack those legs? Lovely

Urgh. Women are allowed to sleep with whoever they like and coming on a woman's forum to moan about the reasons she won't look twice at you is a dick move, so she's having a lucky escape, i'd say.

Can you be in 'Domme' mode and tell him he's your slave and he's not to even think about his pleasure until you have come/ are satisfied (or that he will get punished if he's a selfish twat?)