No sex please, we’re pregnant!

[LizzieLJ]

I’m 30 weeks pregnant and for the last few months my DH has become less and less physically intimate and seems to do anything to avoid DTD. He’s avoiding discussing it with me and keeps ‘accidentally’ falling asleep on the sofa and not coming to bed or staying away on business trips with increasing frequency. I’m not expecting a Roman orgy every night of the week, I’d settle for a Saturday night quickie! Is this normal for fellas to go off sex when a woman is pregnant?

Yes my ex husband wouldn't come near me

Men are visual and he prob doesn't fancy you pregnant. Or he's worried about hurting baby

Mine wouldn’t after about 16 weeks, when I developed a bump. Didn’t like to be reminded of it I guess when we were trying to have sex. We didn’t have sex again our baby was over a year old so it was a really, frustratingly long wait for me.

Hopefully it will pass once your baby is here, and you’ve recovered.

Don't be disheartened by it. In my case it was nothing to do with my partner at all (I still fancied her). I think I was over thinking that my you know what would be going very near the baby and it put me off a bit, and also the worry of hurting the baby. I did get over that at some point.

That might work for her DH but I think OP would like PIV to be honest.

I've definitely heard of this, but I don't personally understand it. I found my wife to be extra hot while pregnant. Wish we could have had more sex then! (Not a "Roman orgy"'either, mind you, but at least together every day LOL)

My husband couldn't get enough and neither could I. We carried on as normal.

carried on as normal. Was definitely conscious about not going too deep. You've made a baby so this should surely be fairly easy to discuss?

Same.

You’re right it should be easy to discuss, but if I try he suggests that nothing is wrong, he’s just tired or busy at work. I know there is a problem but it seems that he just tries to avoid discussing it, then gets annoyed if I push the issue.

was he usually fine discussing it prior to getting pregnant? It does seem reasonably common strangely, and the issue is clearly on his side

he's scared of hurting the baby and he's freaked out by a cute baby being in there.

It's a great pity, as sex when pregnant is super amazing. I had sex and an orgasm every day as I felt it was very positive energy and hormones for the baby. And it was.

Try talking to him. Or turning him on so much that he can't help himself sliding inside.

Personally I don't understand your husband objection, like some others I think pregnant women look sizzling hot. But we are all different I guess. And unless you are getting really wild and crazy baby is safe.

I could feel mine moving away when I had sex while I was pregnant. That was a different sensation entirely.

Get yourself a vibrator, pregnancy orgasms are lovely and at 30 weeks you’ll help your body prepare for delivery.

Yes! My wife had incredible pregnancy orgasms particularly in the third trimester, she was so hot I couldn’t help sliding it in every chance I got LOL

haha you did right, pregnant sex only has limited availability 😅

OP you need to take your DH by the … and insist. He might need to hear from you that you want it and are fine with it.