Hookup finding and etiquette

[PigeonOnTheWashingLine]

Hey everyone,

I'm soon to be out of a sex starved marriage and am almost jangling with excitement at being free to have some sex at last!

I have a couple of small children and don't really want the hassle of a relationship at the monent so am considering casual hookups. The problem is is that it's been so long since I've been single that I don't know where to start. In the olden days it would have been a club / bar, get a bit pissed and pull a random. Nowadays with commitnents & kids it's a bit more tricky.

My marriage was same sex but I'm also curious about having a bit of cock. Where the heck do I go?

Also, what's the etiquette? Say you find someone online and decide to hook up in a hotel say, who pays for the hotel? So many questions are whizzing about inside my head all mixed up with intoxicating excitement that it's almost unbearable!

Normally profiles say if you can/can't host (and willingness to travel).

Hey op

so. My advice . Take your time. There are no shortage of people out there, sifting is the issue.

im assuming sex only so would reccomend somthing such as fabswingers or Feeld?

if your going fab then my advice.

1. block all single guys and couples. You do the looking to avoid millions of messages
2. make it clear you want a social meet first and you will choose the time to avoid the married types.
3. get the party to write you a paragraph of what they want. See if they are prepared for effort
4. video call first to weed out those who are using profile photos from twenty years ago!
5. safety. Nothing online that can show your face house etc. tell a friend where your going

and as always. Wake up the next day regretting you didn’t go further as opposed to regretting going to far!

@PigeonOnTheWashingLine
Good childminders are worth their weight in gold... I'm so glad I'm way past that satge!

Any dating app can be used for hook-ups / casual sex. Just make it clear on your profile what you are looking for, and I'm certain you will be spoilt for choice!

Fabswingers isn't a bad shout - good advice from @Shropshiregirl51 .

You could also look at KillingKittens.

Whatever you decide, have fun!

I just used Facebook Dating as it's free . I put that I was looking for some fun and nothing too serious in my bio (at the bottom so they had to actually read the rest of it to get to that bit!). I was very picky with my matches but have had a couple of amazing hook ups. The first was pre-agreed to be a one night only and it was actually incredible (all inhibitions out the window knowing I would never cross paths with this guy again and he was blinking gorgeous too), another has become an occasional FWB type thing and quite an enjoyable cheeky friendship and a third actually seems to be becoming a relationship of sorts against my better judgement 😂. I am very much enjoying my new found freedom and not looking for a serious relationship any time soon (if ever!) and dating apps have been a revelation to me!

just go on hinge and bumble and say looking for a man and set age group 20-25. you will have 1000s of hook up offers.

free locations will be preferred initially. Outdoors, cars.

I've had positive experiences with Feeld too. as a woman it's not necessarily worth paying.unless you want to go incognito, see your likes or have more filtering options (but it's quite cheap subscription compared to some other apps).

Just out of curiosity @PigeonOnTheWashingLine did you ever take the plunge and have a hotel hook up?

@PigeonOnTheWashingLine i always suggest a meet up in public , bar restaurant etc..I need to feel a connection first with her, nutlike they say, each to their own. Have used fabs..not all meets worked out but still worth try. Good luck ✊🏿