How to jump start sex life

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Feel a bit embarrassed writing this, but my partner and I have not had sex for six months. I know that as we recently celebrating living in our new home for that long this weekend, and we have yet to do it here.

Life has just been hectic- the house move, some deaths, we've both been battling some mental health issues. I love him and still fancy him and I think its been so long we're both just embarrassed to bring it up.

How do I jump start it, without having a big drawn out conversation about the fact that its been six months? Full disclosure, he has had ED issues since we met so sex has been frustrating in the past and shining a light on it all by discussing sex can sometimes make it worse.

I feel faintly ridiculous writing this as a grown woman with plenty of sexual experience, so please be kind.

Have you initiated at all the past 6 months?
Does he tend to reject your advances?

If not, just dive in. Kiss, touch, undress, ... Do everything you would do if it hadn't been 6 months.
Then, a few days later, do it again.

Neither one of us really initiates anymore, and it's very quickly become the norm/routine. It sounds stupid but I now feel like it's such a huge deal that I feel a bit embarrassed to initiate, like I'm a teenage virgin again!

I get that. However, you want a sex life.
That's not going to happen if you don't get over your embarrassment.
There really is only one way forward. He's not budging, so you'll have to.

Hear me out..
My husband and I did a "would you rather" form thing that I printed out for us, obviously everything related to sex. Some questions weren't our cup of tea and some were, and some were unexpected. We filled the forms out and then swapped and talked through it with eachother and explained in places and that was honestly enough that night. It reignited the spark so to speak.. it felt less pressured than having a sit down conversation. We even had a glass of wine and fun music whilst filling it in, so it was more of a date evening really :)