basically the thread title… I just have no desire for sex these days. For context been with my OH for nearly 10 years, we have 2 DC 5 & 2, I feel very touched out at the end of the day and I just don’t feel horny. We do our equal share around the house but I would say that I’m the parent that the kids like to hang off all day 😂
I do still enjoy sex when it happens and when OH initiates but he’s becoming insecure about me never initiating any kind of sex, he’s worried I’m no longer sexually attracted to him and I’m just doing it when he initiates out of obligation which isn’t true but I can understand why it might seem this way.
our sex life when it happens is good and nothing is really off limits if the mood is right. I just feel like the topic has been brought up a lot and now there’s just lots of expectation and I can feel his disappointment if it doesn’t happen and it’s becoming too much, and now I’m almost shy around the whole idea of it, which is silly I know…I know we clearly need to have a discussion about that, but I also do want to fix it and realise that I’m part of the issue.
I had my coil removed a couple of months ago because I was completely uninterested in sex and things might have gotten a little better but we just aren’t where I hoped we’d be at this point. Any advice?