Sorry, English is my third language. And please understand there 350+ cultures out there, something might not be the norm to you but it is the norm to their culture. I am not asking you to agree with my husband sex style, what I am asking is does this sound like he has a 'dominant fetish' or he just a normal man who dominant in bed?
Don't get me wrong I was still a virgin when married to him so I am naturally submissive (also that what my culture taught me), and thank to him I know what multiple vaginal orgasms is, I wouldn't know such intense pleasure or vaginal orgasms to the point addicting without his him (his penis). I am willingly to submit to him out of every fiber of my being.
Together 14 years, married 12 years, and since day one he always very dominant in bed. He the type that does 100% of the work in bed and just want me to enjoy the pleasure he gives me.
He said it flat out, his exact quotes, "he the one with the penis so let him do the f-cking". It like that just how he ride his high, and remain erection from being dominant and literally does 100% of the work in bed.
He doesn't want blowjob, (could be a cultural thing for him too), but his reasons is the girl is is control, the girl in dominant position. But he NOT want that, he MUST be the one in dominant position, the one in control, the one take actions.
So No, he not want blowjob. He said if he want one, he will let me know. So far he never ask me for one. He however want my vagina.
Not ask you to agreed with him, but he as the rights to boundaries to his own body, if the gender were reverse there be an uproar, a man has the rights to his own body boundaries too.
He said it straight out, he not want my mouth, he wants my vagina. I mean how much more clear he can be. And he said let him go down on me. He has zero problem with go down on me.
Outside of bed he is a very traditional man, and in bed seem like he is too. He not want blowjob, he not want anal, he wants my vagina.
His sex styles is nothing like 50 Shades of Grey, heck, he not even spank me, not even yank my hair, let alone like porn, chains, sex dungeons, tied up by chains like Ana in 50 Shades of Grey, not even sex toys.
He Vanilla, the PinV traditional intercourse between a man and a woman, he very loving and caring in bed, he not even pull my hair, if my long hair get in the way, he just gently slide my hair to the side and suck on my neck and shoulders and mouth. He kisses alot during sex, like kiss and thrust at the same time. I don't feel that he fu-ck me, I feel that he 'make love' to me (and I'm not fan of that word, lol).
Here the thing, he likes sex out of his desire for me. He will stare and stare at me, and pin me down the bed, one hand pin my wrist down, one hand pin my shoulder down. BUT then he process on have Vanilla missionary position PinV sex with me, hell, he even asked me "Does it hurt?" if he thrust a bit harder than normal,
yah. he asked me "Does it hurts?" when all he does is traditional PinV intercourse, lolol.
Does this sound like he has a dominant kink? Or is he a BDSM man? Or just a normal man who likes to be dominant in bed?
Any input appreciated it, it just something I keep wonder about him.