If your DH offered you a hall pass, would you take him up on it?

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Hypothetical situation (for most, I assume?):
For whatever reason, your DH offers you a one off opportunity of sexual freedom. There's no catches, he hasn't done anything wrong, no expected hall pass for him in return, no repercussions guaranteed (hypothetical remember).
Would you take him up on it?
What about if the offer only stood if he was allowed to watch? (Could be recorded, I guess).
Interested to hear others thoughts.

Nope my DP is the only man I want

Fantasy - Yes. RL - No. Whatever else you might think, it would be very naive to think that it would have zero complications / implications for the future. Who would make such an offer and what exactly would they be thinking?

That said, an old friend did receive a similar offer. She and her DH had one of his friends staying who was a legend among men and women for his incredible abilities between the sheets. Her DH allowed her to have a fling with him and apparently it greatly improved their own sex life after. What he didn’t know is that she’d already started cheating with the man. And what presumably wasn’t in the original offer was that she would have him (with her DH knowledge) as a long term FWB.

Same!

No. I joke saying if I met my fantasy man (a celeb) and he wanted sex with me I couldn't turn him down. But that's just pure fantasy. In reality I only want my husband.

Not with my current partner no. I only want him. I've discussed it with FWB's but there was no emotional attachment there and would have happily let them watch if the situation arose.

Yes. But we're ENM so frequently give each other "passes"!

If anything, it makes me appreciate my DP even more.

Not married but my boyfriend gave me a pass so I could have sex with a woman as a one -off. It was something I had been longing to try from
before we had met so when the opportunity arose he encouraged me to take it.

He was not present but did enjoy hearing the details afterwards It has never caused any problems between us.

I'd be interested to know why the question is being asked. If the coda about being watched is significant, it's no longer a "pass", because it then ir's about the gratification for the person watching.

Absolutely yes, we would! How fun would that be? We’ve already got an agreement in place for our top five—strictly just sex, nothing more! The idea of letting him watch or record? Well, that just adds an extra layer of excitement, doesn’t it? Hypothetically, of course… 😉

The question stems from a friend being in a similar situation. She's not really had much experience outside of her DH and from what I gather, he doesn't feel like he can satisfy her. Her gut reaction is that she's not interested but a part of her wonders if she's missing out on something. It got me curious and I've asked other friends what they would do and got some wildly different answers albeit most agree with her if they really try to put themselves in her shoes.
As to why he would prefer to watch, I could only speculate.

I wouldn't do it in a relationship that was overall happy and sexually satisfying.

If I felt like using a hall pass, I'd be questioning the quality of my relationship to be honest.

We have done this but not as 'pass' for me but because it's fantasy for him. No physical problems and it happened a few times but then he was unexpectedly jealous despite many conversations beforehand (and the reassurance that he'd done the same with an ex without issue), and it caused problems for us. If you do it think carefully about who you choose. I think our problem was that I like sex with people I like, whose company I enjoy. He perhaps woud've been more comfortable with a stranger.

My partner did this with his ex. They had been in a relationship for 5 years and was both young and not sure if they wanted to explore with other people just like both of there friend groups was doing as they had only really been with each other. They both had nights away they was attending on the same night so spoke about “being single” that night” and agreed to go ahead with it. She ended up sleeping with someone but he never managed too and I think that kind of annoyed him but as agreed that night was the only night it could happen. He initially liked hearing what she did with the other guy and how it felt but I think he regretted it in the end because he couldn’t do the same.