Sex after having a baby

[ella1998xx]

I'm constant worried whether me and my boyfriend are having sex enough since having a baby 9 weeks ago it was always just us 2 spending time together so it does feel different we're both tired but every night that goes by when the babies asleep and we Don't have sex I'm petrified that we're losing love for each other we have sex weekly but it's gone down from what it was is this normal in a relationship or does it mean he's not attracted to me any more

@ella1998xx pregnant atm with first baby and very worried about this also. Remember sex drive goes down with things like tiredness/stress/life changes I doubt it's you! Xx

How is he coping as a father (1st time ? ), there can be pressure on men to step up to the provider role once a baby has arrived, every thing is new and a dip in sex is to be expected really, tiredness and a new born can easily push sex down the priority list.
At just 9 weeks in I really wouldn’t worry about it, but don’t forget to check in with the relationship once in a while.

If not having sex every five minutes is an issue 9 weeks after the baby being born then he's the wrong bloke. If he's not making a fuss then stop worrying about it. If he is making a fuss, tell him to get a life! He's lucky you've done it at all this early! Some people take months to get back on the wagon.

9 weeks is very early days. Make sure you keep talking, even if time and energy for sex are in short supply. You’ve just had the man’s child, you need a bit more than “does he still try to initiate sex,” as reassurance you are attractive and valued!

Love and sex are not the same thing.

There are plenty of signs to know if you have a healthy, loving relationship. Maybe before you had a baby, sex was the main way in chich you both communicated your love for each others. If that was the case, then it's about time something changes.
Sex can - and should- be one of the ways you express your love. But it can't be the only one.
Do you kiss, cuddle, smile at each other, compliment each other, treat each other kindly and lovingly, are you supportive of each other, do you give nice gestures?