Baby making

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How often should a couple trying to have a baby be having sex?
My husbands libido is lower than mine and he has told me off severally about not wanting to have sex when I have initiated it.
So nowadays I rarely initiate it.
We are trying to have a baby and on counting we only have sex maximum 5 times in a month.
Is this normal and is there any chance of success with some months where we have sex thrice in a month?

What can I do?

That’s not enough tbh. When it was around my most fertile time it was prob 8-9 times. Felt like a chore with ex H was forcing myself Just to have my 2nd dd. Lucky I fell pregnant within 2 months of trying. Also, when you have sex look up the positions that help the sperm find their way best to your eggs ect. Such a long time ago for me other suggestion is get another husband!

A very long time ago, and after two pregnancy losses, we opted for the “every night for a month” strategy. It worked.

Well we were lucky - didn't have to do anything different at all. Just decided to stop taking birth control and see what happened. Got pregnant on the first attempt at going for a baby with both children. Anyway, sex should be enjoyable, not a chore.

It's all about timing. I got pregnant from having unprotected sex with ex-DH once.

If you're intent on having a baby you could get an ovulation kit but posters on the TTC forums know more about that. You might want to post there.

I'd question why you want a baby with a partner who "tells you off" and has a mismatched sex drive. Doesn't sound like a great place to start.

Agree not very much if actively trying. As for position. I’m not an expert but I had a smear test after I started TTC and hadn’t had much luck. The nurse told me that with the tilt on my cervix I should try from behind as it apparently made sure the cervix was bathed in his sperm. Not sure how much difference it truly makes but I did try altering positions much more that month and told DH that I really wanted it more from behind and conceived straight away. 🤭🤭

All about timing and (to an extent) luck…with my DD it was the second time after we stopped using condoms. Given I was on top it was really quite the stroke of luck…

To get pregnant you need to have sex once in the month at the right time.
Buy clear blue ovulation sticks and jump on him the moment you get that smiling face

The week of your ovulation you should be having sex every other day.
The other 3 weeks it really doesn't matter, so the amount of times a month is irrelevant. As long as you're doing it on the right days.
So if you're ovulating Mon-Sun you should be having sex Mon-Wed-Fri-Sun.

We were having sex everyday at the key times and she got pregnant both times with no issue. Looking back it was some of the best sex ever. Really impromptu, intense and all over the house. Before this, we were careful with condoms so it felt liberating and with real purpose. Fond memories. Now we can't get a minutes peace to be so freewilled unless a weekend getaway.

It's about timing, not frequency. You could have sex every day of the month except your fertile window and you wouldn't get pregnant.

I have a low libido and tracked my cycle using an app and ovulation sticks. We only really had sex in my fertile window, so that I didn't burn out and (after 5 months...) it worked.

If it helps we used "piss sticks" (sorry but this makes me laugh) for all 3 kids. We were doing it once a day around the peak times. It did feel mechanical if I am honest. First 2 kids were conceived really quickly, 3rd probably took 9+ months which surprised us.