Struggling with all intimacy 17 months post partum

[eiy2028]

It is what the title says!

17 months post partum and I have little sex drive. We had a very active sex life right up until DD was born.

It’s very painful for me to have sex, but it’s not just about the pain, any other types of foreplay I struggle with too. It’s like I have a mental block, I struggle to even kiss passionately now. It’s like I’m really struggling with any form of intimacy and it breaks my heart for myself and my partner

as mentioned, I have a little sex drive still. It’s not that I don’t want it, I think about it but then when I think it might be on the cards I feel so uncomfortable and I have to stop

I really don’t know what’s wrong with me

any advice? Did this happen to anyone else?

Are you breastfeeding?

im coming up to 3 years since having my baby and I didn’t have sex again until 18 months post partum.
and then it was just around ovulation when my desire peaked.
im still breastfeeding and in 3 years I think we’ve had sex maybe 6-7 times.
I often feel touched out, tired, and also somedays just really annoyed with him lol.

Not uncommon to experience this in the months/years postpartum.
If you want to work on it, could you try couples counseling with someone who's specialised as a sexologist?