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Potential swingers in need of help!

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Cawsands · 27/08/2024 19:11

My partner and I have a great sex life, but we are always looking for ways to spice it up. Last week I raised the subject of swinging and I was a little surprised that my partner didn’t object. How do we progress? I think that our relationship is strong enough that it’s not about just wanting to have sex with someone else, but having an exciting experience that we would both enjoy. To that end, I think we should go to a swingers club where we could take in the whole atmosphere, talk to people there and see if it is for us before we jump in at the deep end. I am nervous about doing a swap with a couple privately in case there is an expectation that we should have full on sex with them and I actually find I don’t like seeing my partner with someone else . With this in mind can anyone recommend a club that would be best for Newbies dipping their toes in the water, or hot tub, for the first time. We are based in the South West and our three nearest clubs are Steamers Quay and Within Temptation in Torquay, or Naked Occasions in Crediton. Preferably it would be a Friday or Saturday night. Also does anyone know the best night to visit, we’d hate to turn up on a quiet night and end up talking to the bar staff. Please help us , we haven’t a clue how to get started , but now we have an itch that needs scratching.

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Maccar305 · 27/08/2024 20:44

Secrets monthly parties nr Totnes are legendary.....

From what you've described, my advice is take it slowly, keep in tune with each other's feelings before you go, and don't go with expectations of playing......mingle & chat, enjoy each other in a new place.....no rushing.

Enjoy

Cawsands · 28/08/2024 05:49

Thank you so much that’s really helpful!

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AmandeFrance0979 · 28/08/2024 14:35

We went to a club in London called Le Boudoir. Before going to a club the advice you've already had is the same as I would give. Lots of talking between the two of you and take it slow. If you go to a club it's better to go with low expectations and be pleasantly surprised rather than the other way round. Go along, chat to people, make friends. If the chemistry is right and something happens see it as a bonus.

AHobbyaweek · 01/09/2024 17:29

Try WeAreX. Allows you to take it slowly, get in group chats with loads of people to just chat, vanilla socials to meet people and connect before taking the step. Lots of couples and singles and a good mix of people.

PinotPony · 01/09/2024 18:17

Another vote for WeAreX (formerly killing kittens)

I started off in the newbies chat group where I met a whole bunch of people starting out just like me. Within 3 months, and after a few socials to get to know people, we'd arranged a filthy weekend away for 20 of us. We had the best time playing together in a beautiful country house with pool and jacuzzi.

I've kept in touch with most of them and meet up throughout the year, sometimes just to hang out, dinner, shopping, etc, sometimes to get naked. And we often make introductions to other trusted people.

ChloeUK · 02/09/2024 09:32

I've not even heard of WeareX! We were considering Hellfire, Le Boudoir or Kittens but will definitely need to look into this now, more research!

AverageGuy · 02/09/2024 13:34

@ChloeUK Make sure you have both talked it through (Jealousy can raise its ugly head at all sorts of times..), know your limits, and don't do anything that makes either one of you uncomfortable, and for god's sake, never "take one for the team"!

KK is, in my opinion, elitist & expensive. Hellfires is a nice little club, quite intimate, and has a large dungeon for those that way inclined. AbFabs is another one to consider - they do couples only nights, and are right next door to a Premier Inn.

You won't know how busy a club is until you get in... The staff aren't going to tell you - it's in their interest to get punters in! However Friday & Saturdays are their busiest nights.

Be aware of the "wanking dead" - single guys on the prowl...

There are those that are respectful, and understand that "no" is a complete sentence, but we appear to be in the minority...

And have fun!

PinotPony · 02/09/2024 20:10

ChloeUK · 02/09/2024 09:32

I've not even heard of WeareX! We were considering Hellfire, Le Boudoir or Kittens but will definitely need to look into this now, more research!

There's a Mumsnet group on there! Send me a friend request and I'll add you x

ThisOchreLemur · 02/09/2024 22:49

PinotPony · 02/09/2024 20:10

There's a Mumsnet group on there! Send me a friend request and I'll add you x

could you add me please? Thank you x

AverageGuy · 03/09/2024 10:13

PinotPony · 02/09/2024 20:10

There's a Mumsnet group on there! Send me a friend request and I'll add you x

@PinotPony I've sent you a "like", as I haven't paid for DM's... Hope that's ok.

Shropshiregirl51 · 03/09/2024 11:15

I would suggest that you have to be totally rock solid and both equally as enthusiastic about this. As always take your time, go at the pace your comfortable. Regret what you haven’t done yet rather than the other way about!

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