Vagina too big

[Emptynester123]

Husband says my vagina is too big for him. I’ve had 2 children. Is this a thing?

It's an unkind and nasty thing to say. You don't have to accept abusive behaviour. It's like telling a man they have a small penis. LTB and take a kinder lover.

Is this the same husband who’s been avoiding sex with you?

yes

Is he saying this is why he doesn’t to?

Tell him your vagina is normal sized, his knob is just tiny!!!! What a vile little man for saying such a thing.

have you done other sexual things in the last 15 years if no sex?

In answer to your question, I don’t actually know how much it changes after childbirth (I had a C Section).

Whether it’s changed or not, he shouldn’t be saying such cruel things to you - this is all about him. He’s trying to make you feel horrible about yourself because that’s how he feels about himself.

To put your mind at rest, has a doctor ever had a look?

Not sure what you do about him though. What a horrible man.

After so long without love and sex, I’d love to see you leave him and start over - whether that’s just casual dating or finding a new relationship and enjoying the rest of your life.

I know that’s easy to say though.

I have had two children (no tears) and my OH says that he can't tell the difference. He could be trying to preserve his life, but the fact that he still achieves orgasm in the same amount of time would seem to back his claim up.

My wife has had three children and it’s no different to women I’ve slept with who haven’t had children.
Strange comment to make and rude.
How do you find it? Do you think it seems like that or do you think it’s fine?

Seems fine. I asked nurse doing routine smear test. She said if anything smaller than average.

It's an unnecessary comment by him.

And it discounts that he may have changed. I'm closing in on 50. I'm less sensitive than I was and my erections led firm and less reliable. I'll hazard a guess that the ability to get hard matters at least as much as vagina size.

Given your comments on the other thread I'm not sure how he's in a position to say what he did tbh.

It’s not a nice thing to say… the comments tell him… this that and the other aren’t helpful…
it does change sex after children.. however that’s the price of having children…
and getting older (my eyes don’t work as well that absolutely pisses me off) he can’t return to his youth..

He sounds nasty 😕

This is only a thing for abusive husbands. Doubtful anything had changed.

Too big? Seriously?

Maybe you should have said something like 'well, you got a small cock'! 😁

Sorry, not helpful, but he's being immature.

The only massive cunt you have is your husband. Get rid of him and you'll be left to enjoy your perfectly normal vagina with a man who appreciates it.

Yes it's a thing. Everyone's different, and some vaginas are more affected by childbirth than others. I've had partners who still feel relatively tight after going through several child births, and others who very obviously have much larger/looser vaginas. Maybe they were always bigger, but no woman I've slept with who's had children has been as tight as any of the others who haven't (relatively small sample size!) The difference is much more noticeable with fingers than during piv, but can still feel it.

Sorry if that's too graphic, or offends or upsets, just being brutally honest. I've still had good sex with all these women, all felt different. I've never, ever told any of them that their vagina is too big or loose, that's just a shitty thing to say.

@NorthernJim does being bigger or looser make a difference to your enjoyment?

@Usernamechange500 I've heard it does as more friction is better apparently, and why they all rave about "tightness"

From asking men, I've been told that everyone feels different and it's more about genetics than childbirth. One ex said his first girlfriend was a virgin but she was very loose feeling even aged 16, and then a woman who'd had 3 babies was tight.

What a vile thing to say, whether it's a 'thing' or not.

Love tunnel?! 🤮

Yes, completely agree.I’ve had 2 children, my husband, has said, that my vagina does feel different, much looser He hasn’t said it in a horrible way though, we just try different positions and understand there’s more to sex than penetration.

Tell him your lover has no complaints