Would you be worried!?

[Honeyybee]

Help. I’m an idiot I know before anyone calls me one.
mum 30, married. Been with husband almost 10 years and we have 2 lovely children. Age 3 and 6. We are fully done. But tonight something unexpected happened and he actually did the deed by accident inside of me. I’m not on any contraception as I’m my body doesn’t agree with any. We’ve always been so careful and this is the first ever slip up. I’ve started my period 2 days ago but it’s always very light. Barely any blood and today it seems like it’s finished ( just when I wipe slightly) so I’m not sure if this means it will be ok and very unlikely to get pregnant?
ob the other hand I could go and get the morning after pill but I have extreme emetahobia and a lot of people said they threw up and was very sick after taking it which makes me feel so worried and making me not want too.

help !?!? Xxx

If you don't want another baby, then get the morning after pill.

It's worth risking vomitting and feeling ill for a while over a possible lifetime commitment, surely?

Get the morning after pill. The side effects, if any, will be worth it if you want definitely avoid pregnancy.
But the important question to consider is why you are not using a condom or thinking of a vasectomy, as it is not always possible to be careful and you might end up in difficult situations in future.

does anyone know the risks of vomiting with the morning after pill? I know people don’t understand but this phobia has ruled my life for almost 30 years. It’s very bad I’ve had every type of counselling and medication under the sun but i cant get rid of it. I’m petrified of being sick.
we have considered vasectomy and probably will go down that route the wait is so long to have it done. I can’t use condoms as I am allergic , every one causes huge discomfort for weeks afterwards. It’s the first slip up in 3 years :(

My first slip up in 20 months resulted in the birth of DD.

We'd intended on a second child, so she was just 2 years earlier than planned #justsaying

It doesn't matter if we understand or don't understand your phobia. Your phobia isn't going to be solved in the next few hours. You have a choice of chance vomiting or chance becoming pregnant.

If you just had your normal period you are not due to ovulate for 10-14 days.

You can still get pregnant on your period. You wouldn’t be the first woman ever to get pregnant this way!

I’ve taken emergency contraception twice—age 36 and age 46. Neither time did I feel nauseous, nor did I have any side effects. My advice is to get yourself down to Boots or a large supermarket pharmacy this morning. The longer you wait, the less effective it becomes.

the reason we decided not to have another baby is our last child was born with a heart defect and had open heart surgery at birth. He also has a coloboma which is an eye defect where he is slightly blind ( you would never tell by looking it’s the back of the eye didn’t form properly inside ) so I feel I may have something wrong with me like genetics that causes issues. So I’m so scared something would be wrong. It’s not fair to risk that again. He’s all fixed and sorted and well but another time may not be so lucky. I also haven’t taken any pre conception vitamins and I’ve eaten rubbish for 6 plus months so my body isn’t in healthy mode for a child.

thinking of just going to get the pill today even though I’m so scared of being sick. I’ve read the chances are low so hope I’m in that category

You don’t have to justify to us why you don’t want any more children. If you don’t, you don’t.

Sounds like you have a plan for today…good luck. Perhaps worth putting a more robust contraception plan in place in the future. Let us know how you get on!

It's possible but highly unlikely if you have a normal length menstrual cycle. If you ovulated earlier than normal whilst you were coming towards the end of your period then there is a slim chance but a period is the shedding of the womb lining so not likely to result in a pregnancy.
I think the question is if OP has experienced implantation bleeding rather than her normal period. They were easy distinguishable for mepersonally as I have heavy, painful periods, but for women who have light bleeds I can understand why there might be confusion.

Been in that situation…he’s now at secondary school. But I’d always wanted another one and made a very definite choice to reach for the folic acid and not the MAP in your shoes.

I wasn’t as angry or critical of dh as I should have been though. If you don’t do hormones HE needs to step up on the contraception front, by supporting you to take the MAP and deal with any side effects now and take joint responsibility for a permanent solution.

Looking back it was a sign of things to come, and that I wasn’t as loved as I should have been.

I wouldn’t want to influence your choices but I wouldn’t be worried because at this stage in your cycle, even though it’s possible to get pregnant it’s unlikely. That combined with the chances of pregnancy, on average, in any given month is only about 25% and that is when you are actively trying, the odds are low.

But personally, for me, I wouldn’t worry because a pregnancy is not a disaster for me. So you need to make your own mind up about what you do. It sounds like you’ve made the decision to take action anyway.

For what it’s worth, I understand about the vomiting phobia. My mum has it and whenever we were sick as kids, we had to live in isolation.

Hope you are ok, I’ve taken the map a few times due to condom splitting. I didn’t become sick at all and hopefully you should be ok, these things happen in heat of moment so don’t be so hard on yourself. You don’t have to justify why you don’t want more kids either, it’s about you and your being more than anything x

Hi everyone ,

thank you for the messages. My update is that I havnt taken anything today. Sorry for tmi but I am still on my period even though it’s so barely there it still is when I wipe. I also took an ovulation test just to check it wasn’t strong and it came back negative / the faint line so right now I’m not ovulating which I know for 100% anyway. I’m going to do test ( ovulation ) for the next five days and if none of them are positive for LH surge im Pretty sure it will be all fine. X

You can also get the copper coil as emergency contraception which would avoid you having to take a tablet and also provide ongoing contraception?