Dealing with shame popping up

[Duckduckgoose24]

Hi!

I struggled with a appropriate title but I was reading the thread about watching men masterbate and it's made me want to ask.

I too am one of the many 40 something divorced women who is having a really great and liberating time of it, discovering sex on my terms, doing and seeing things I'd have never done in my marriage.

I struggle though with this feeling of shame, that just pops up now and again. Like I'm bad for enjoying it and I have a moment second guessing myself. Places like this topic are great as it reminds me that it's all okay. I follow and listen to certain content creators and that assures me it's normal and healthy to want sex, to want to experiment, push a few boundaries.

Can you have your own internalised madonna/whore complex?

Not sure what I want really, but just wandering if any one experiences the same?

What else pops in my head: They're sex people Lynn!

Maybe I'm sex people. Maybe that's okay.

Thank you!

Thanks @Duckduckgoose24 i do like the sex doctor she’s really the only British one I’ve come across. I’ve not heard the others I’ll check them out too.

@dahliadiva if your interested

My favourite influencer on shedding shame is Pamela Madsen I love her and her attitude to embodying pleasure she’s a bad ass.

The shameless sex podcast has been excellent including their book and as mentioned has given me links to others most notably OMGYES and uberlube.

books wise I’ve read most of the ones recommended on here regularly but of the ones I’ve found myself Coming Soon on audible by Dania Schiftan was very good.

hope that’s some use good luck.