What is 'vanilla'?

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I'm a bit confused. I don't really know what type of things are classed as 'vanilla' and what things are see as more adventurous. I think DH would like us to be more adventurous but I don't really know what or how to begin. And yes, we probably should talk about it but I want to have some context first!

I would say 'vanilla' would be something like standard missionary position.

Adventurous may be something like domination.

Everyone is different.

It is intended to be considered “plain.” To me that means a lone heterosexual couple having PIV sex without accessories or any kind of agreed power dynamic.
It can be a wonderful, simple, treasured activity but most people will branch out from this to some degree in a long term relationship without it making them subversive or kinky.

Standard PIV sex and oral.

No power dynamics, no BDSM, no toys, no anal, no other people involved.

What makes you think DH would like you both to be more adventurous?

To me “vanilla” (I dislike that term - vanilla is an amazing flavour) is a few standard “easy” positions and basic oral. No anal or kinky stuff.

My partner was pretty vanilla when we met and I wasn't at all. There are things we do that I know he's never done before and he seems to be enjoying exploring new things with me.
What I dislike is people using the term vanilla as an insult. Imagine a world where EVERYONE was into the same things sexually? It would be chaos 😆
In the same way that I have introduced new things to my partner, he's very much into more romantic sex which I've never really experienced before and I'm enjoying equally. I think it's great when two partners can bring different things to the sexual relationship and you both benefit

OK, I'm definitely vanilla then! I don't feel it's a bad thing though and I am happy.

When we've been through a 'dry spell' in the past, DH has asked me if I would be into other things which is what makes me think he would be.

Nothing wrong with a bit of vanilla, but I wouldn’t want it every time for life.

It doesn’t always have to be fancy , I quite like a scoop with a few sprinkles a little bit of sauce and a flake stuck in to mix it up a bit.

It I was going out to a parlour then vanilla would not be on my mind, and I’d like to try a more exciting flavour. I haven’t yet shared a sundae or tried double cone.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve notice my tastes have changed and where I didn’t mind a bit of bubble gum I now lean towards a more refined scoop of pistachio.although bit of whippy in an oyster shell is a guilty pleasure when the mood takes me!!

Ask your DH maybe he just fancies a choc ice or does he want a brown derby the naughty boy!!

I would consider all positions, toys, oral, anal and even mild bondage as vanilla.

To me vanilla means not kink or group sex etc.

To add (can't edit) if someone said to me they are not vanilla I would assume they have a kink like BDSM or fetish. Not for me!