sex after having a baby

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so i’m breastfeeding and i’ve lost nearly 3 stone in total very quickly after having my little one who’s 6 months old. obviously i look a lot better than i did before (needed to lose weight as was piling it on) and it’s not a bad issue but my partner is always touching my bum, saying i look good etc etc and im struggling with it!! also with breastfeeding my boobs are bigger so i can tell he’s looking haha and i just feel really
self conscious. i’ve spoke to him about it but he’s just like you look great etc!! is anyone else struggling with this? i feel like not getting my boobs out infront of him, as they feel like they’re for one purpose at the moment and that’s for feeding my little gal! feel silly saying this but would love someone to confide in!

i also don’t really feel like being intimate because of this. i’m struggling with being ‘oggled’ as odd as that sounds!! even though before baby we had sex and i’d walk around naked and not care i now feel like hiding!

I breastfed my daughter for three years and my husband wasn’t allowed to touch them during that time, as I just felt weird about sexualising my daughter’s “feeding area” so to speak.

He respecting my wishes with no issues. You need to make it clear to him if you don’t want him to touch them.

Maybe he’s feeling a bit neglected which is totally normal, even if he’s being unreasonable about it. Just talk to him.

He’s probably a) feeling neglected and b) trying to make you feel more confident and sexy because he wants that part of you back.

You need to talk to him.

Normal for a husband to show sexual interest in his partner. If he's pestering you and groping you after you've told him to stop then he's a problem.

It’s fine to feel the way you do

I didn’t believe my hub found me attractive but the most sex we has was when I was heavily pregnant.

this was due to “boob gains” as he called it

I eventually relaxed about it & he basically worshiped my body.

maybe let him do the same to you. But don’t beat yourself up about it. Everyone is different before & after pregnancy

For us my second was a breeze compared to the first. We carried on sex until late in pregnancy, and we were soon back to near normal. We were careful.
Tell him to keep his hands off the boobs try to start in a gentle and slow way.
Hope all goes well for you and your family.

During my breastfeeding phases after my babies, I kept my bra on when DH and I were intimate. It was just a phase, of my boobs having a different job, so to speak, during that timeframe. It won’t last forever. Do what feels comfortable for you.