Sex after a baby and vaginal cuts and tears

[Mumofonexo]

So giving birth left me with a 3rd degree tear plus I had an episiotomy. So I have two lovely looking scars 🥺 I now feel really self conscious about down there and mutilated. My question is does it bother anyone else’s partner? My husband told me it doesn’t look as bad as I think it does but I feel like he’s just trying to be nice.

For the love of god don't look at it!! I had a 3a tear 14 years ago which needed to be repaired as it wasn't healing. I've never looked. I have, however, had two more children via elcs which were wonderful. Tampons even the tiny purple ones are completely fine , a non-issue. Unless you're particularly bothered by it cosmetically, focus on the physical recovery.

How much healing time have you given yourself? If less than six months the scars will still be fading.

Husband never complained (episiotomy over twenty years ago,)

I had a very slight wobble recently when I realised new fwb had (at over 50) never slept with a woman who had given birth before, he has no complaints either!

@34and3 I did haha I was in allot more pain than what I thought was normal turns out I had something called a sinus tract 🫣 basically I ended up with 3 holes! Absolutely awful healing process that took months to close as they wouldn’t re stitch me.
I can sympathise with you not healing it’s awful isn’t it.

wow I’m so pleased you’ve recovered so well that’s amazing 🩷

yeah nothing is ever coming out my hoo ha ever again x

@NinaOakley

hey I’m nearly a year pp, I know no one else sees down there but it’s made me feel self conscious. I just hope things continue to fade 🙏

@Hubbyuk
Awh you are so kind and a true gentleman! Your wife is very lucky to have you.

I just feel very self conscious since having our baby. I guess it’s hard sometimes to accept all the new changes to your body after birth.