How do you find a FWB?

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I've had FWB in the past when younger/hotter/slimmer etc introduced through mutual friends. Now as a maybe past it single parent where do you find them? Been single 2 years and definitely missing sex.
Surrounded by couples so no single friends. Do want someone who I can have a laugh with and good banter on top of hopefully amazing sex.. just no commitment. not interested in someone sending me a picture of their dick no matter how nice it is. Need connection first to see if I fancy them - am I asking too much?
Always see posts on here about FWBs.. so tell me how you found them

The question you ask would be answered very quickly by online dating?

Oh this would cause utter horror from quíte a lot of people on here but I found mine via the long gone sexchat thread. I can't believe my orgasmic luck!

I remember that. Why did it go?

After the Sex topic started to appear in "Active" the sexchat thread became hugely divisive, with the rival camps - the pros and the antis - relentlessly slugging it out to such an extent that MNHQ (once pretty relaxed about it) had little option but to step in and draw things to an end! That said, many enduring connections were made on the thread and doubtless several of those continue to this day.

I'm a bit wary of going on to say I don't want a relationship feel like I might be inviting a load of dick pics which is not what I'm after
Even without saying not looking for a relationship friends have said most online dating is getting sent dick pics!
I may be open to it if I can't find another way!

Ah so I'm too late before they tightened up! Just my luck!
Did it go off board or just fade into nothingness?

It was taken off the site.

It was a great thread, and I made a couple of good friends that very easily could have developed into FWB if we had wanted to, but circumstances dictated otherwise. It went over to reddit but kind of died a death there, as I think reddit is not as user friendly than here. But it was good fun and a shame it had to go.

I met my current partner through online dating (match.com). From I experience of that

• your description at the top is perfect for an intro paragraph in a site like that.
• It's friendly, you will make friends.
• dickpics, insistent men and suchlike. Yes well, and maybe you receive interesting DMs here, and streets and pubs have their experiences too. Online, write straight that dickpics are off, and ban the d**pickheads who can't read your profile, end of.
• In the same way, you can be very direct with some things, e.g. exclusive or not, etc.
• A sneaky trick: make a pretend account where you say you're a man, and browse the competition to see how they talk about themselves. You'll find some of that entertaining😂(you need two emails, a temp one to pull that trick and your real one for your real profile)

Shame. I wish I was had experienced it

OP, Feeld or Tinder. I found men who were sexually experienced and open much easier to chat with and less creepy than their Nice Guy (TM) counterparts.

Best FWB are those that are able to connect and talk about things other than sex compared to men just keen on sex.

Much like you, too late myself to experience that X-rated thread which was taken down.

I was on the removed thread, before it got pulled, and chatted to a couple of women around the same subject.
I don't think you're asking too much. Connection would have to be the way for me too. It's really not just about 'doing the deed'.

Tinder, and also the much-maligned (on Mumsnet) Fab. On Fab you can be ruthless in blocking and ignoring, but there are needles in that haystack. My last FWB I met via Fab. I say last because we fell in love and have been together nearly 6 years now! He's a well-educated professional, and a lovely man.

I briefly tried Fab but it was so cagey and trashy (no offense to anyone who liked it) that I couldn't possibly put up with it. It just seemed that admins/mods had access to you first and then they would bombard you with messages with what they read you liked.

I was bombarded with messages but Fab felt so sketchy to me, if a man is fit I don't see why he wouldn't use Tinder or Feeld.

I just don't recommend it to anyone but to each their own.

@saffronguilds it was some years ago, it may have changed. I blocked A Lot on there, as there were some really foul people, but there are some good ones (I found one!). But the same could be said of Tinder! I'm not sure if Feeld even existed back in 2018?

@BatshitCrazyWoman A well educated professional lovely man? That sounds fun!

I was on Fab for about 5 minutes and I got a ton of messages. I got the impression those were website owners or moderators BC how do you find someone's profile so fast? But yes I do believe there are some nice men there.

As a single dad in a job that rules out Tinder etc. it’s almost impossible for me. The chat thread mentioned before was really good for connection and was fun, had a few fun chats that faded away eventually, but I get why it was pulled.

I've had two of these relationships in the past. Both heavily focused on the friendship but with a more relaxed naughty side.

Looking just like you.

Waves to @BatshitCrazyWoman It's been a while! So glad you are loved up! Go you!

OP - I found my previous two FWB on "normal" dating apps. Just make it clear in your profile what you are looking for - I'm sure that you will be spoilt for choice!

Omg it's the notorious @AverageGuy checking in never thought I'd see the day. Came to stir some more trouble? 😁

I'm notorious? That's not good... And the second time in two days that I've been called a trouble maker... Ok, what did I do?

I've tried to offer advice to people that have gone through the same sort of thing that I did... If I'm not welcome, I'll absolutely back off...

@AverageGuy Of course you're more than welcome you silly goose! Only joking. No need to absolutely back off, if anything, you're more than welcome to spice things up

Phew! Thank you...

I haven't been active on the site for a while - life has gotten in the way...

I re-entered with some trepidation a couple of days ago, hence my concern at being called notorious & a troublemaker! 😮

Waving back 😁 Not seen you around for ages!