Is there anything that can help low libido?

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My DH and I have been together for 12 years. We have one 2 year old DS. I’ve always had a low libido, as long as I can remember.

When we were young, we’d have sex fairly frequently but never at it like rabbits. As the years went on, we’d have sex maybe 1-2 times a month. My DH also doesn’t have a huge sex drive but definitely higher than mine. But he would always reassure me our sex life was fine, it wasn’t the main priority for him in a relationship etc. However, since having our son, we now have sex maybe once every 3-4 months. To begin with, I was cosleeping with my son and he was a miserable baby and a dreadful sleeper so it was hard finding opportunities. I also had postnatal depression and anxiety so it took a long time for me to feel ready to have sex again. But sleep and mental health are much better now.

Sex also doesn’t feel the same for me as it once did. I never orgasm through penetration alone and I never have but there’s definitely a slight loss of sensation now. But I still enjoy it when we do it, I just never feel like doing it. I’m often exhausted by the end of the day. I do however miss the intimacy and I know my DH would like to have sex more often. We are still intimate in other ways, with lots of cuddles and kisses throughout the day. There’s a lot of love still there. But DH has said he’s given up making a move for fear of being rejected 😔 so it means it’s up to me to instigate… and I have an incredibly low sex drive…

I’m still breastfeeding so I don’t know if that has anything to do with it or not but my son doesn’t BF that often anymore.

Is there anything I can do to help boost my sex drive? I want to want to have sex more.

I don't think supplements will create desire although a few glasses of wine may lower your inhibitions.
Having PND and BF will also have an effect on your libido and may take a while to return. Once you stop BF that also may ave a dramatic effect.
Meanwhile how about making time for yourself and reintroduce yourself to feeling desirable by nice showers, body creams, nails, hair and come out of "mum" mode for a while and back into desirable girl mode.
Take some time with DH and give each other massages for now without Piv. Maybe some happy endings for both of you. Get the gist?

Exercise particularly cardio, good diet (high protein, nuts, fruit, take some supplements) and good sleep will increase libido. For a man, reduced alcohol intake. If he’s exercising and eating well he’ll wake up hard.
When you stop breastfeeding that will also impact it. Also, try to get yourself off and that will help. If you can’t get yourself off chances are he won’t either.
Hope that helps.