Did he fake an orgasm?

[jubs15]

I posted a topic here last week about my boyfriend's porn use. It turned out, from speaking to him, that he was using it daily. He said he'd stop (?) as he acknowledged it was affecting his ability to orgasm through sex.

We had sex yesterday and after a few minutes he said he was going to cum. Nothing happened to suggest he did, other than pulling out. He maintained full erection for several minutes until I gave up on cumming myself. I asked how he was able to keep hard and he claimed it was because he'd not wanked for 2 nights.

I went to clean up, but there was nothing on the tissue, it didn't smell of semen, nothing came out of me and there was nothing on the bed. I've never experienced this before. Did my boyfriend just tell me he'd cum to hide that he's not changing his porn habit or can men have dry orgasms and keep their erections afterwards?

Dry orgasms exist but I only experience them when I am spent - having had sex several times and being excited again, but, er, empty.

In my experience, sometimes there can be no evidence for a day or so! Sometimes it’s immediate and sometimes it takes longer to, forgive me, “reappear.”

Or maybe he did fake it. The fact that he stayed hard afterwards is a bit suspect. I’m not a man though so can’t comment with any expertise.

I’m guessing he faked an orgasm.

i did it myself once or twice when i didn’t think i would come and had been at it for a while..

i would give him the benefit of the doubt as to his reasons for faking though. Despite me understanding your reasons for addressing his lack of orgasm, it has put a lot of pressure on him to cum when you have sex, And that pressure can stop you coming. Especially as he isn’t used to orgasm through penetration. The old death grip is very different in intensity to vaginal sex. My guess is it’s a response to the pressure and anxiety involved. You both need to keep talking about it and take the pressure off. Concentrate on both of you discovering what feels nice for each other , rather than on aiming for the orgasm at the end. Focus the fun and pleasure that and let him know it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t cum. Itll be nice when it happens, but that isn’t the goal. Focus on your mutually enjoying sex together.

It is possible by unlikely. Given the circumstances it’s more likely he hasn’t given up. I’d leave it, don’t mention anything and give it a few more goes.

More, because I haven't been clear enough.
IMO yes he faked it.
The useful thing to do from here, as so often, is... communicate. Some things worth going over:

• Do you mind him faking it? Would rather know he can't concentrate / is feeling stressed / whatever?
• Is faking something you do? Does he mind? (if you want openness... think about it. Also, if you want him to know what you enjoy. How is he going to learn)
• Porn is a factor... What else? [a personal anecdote: with my present pattern, our first attempt was, er disappointing. Porn plays a part, sadly, but I'd also, for a bit, practiced having no expectation - because well, wanting just one thing doesn't help relate. Except at the moment of performing, the "I want nothing" attitude left me in, er, poor shape]
• Try to talk but also not worry about it. "oh well, another time" - just as if you didn't enjoy sex some of the time, you probably want him not to mind. It's a small blip in an intimacy that builds over time. If you doubt yourself, if he doubts himself, bear in mind that you've seen each other bleed and sweat and vomit... (or you will), so what's one more or fewer bit of bodily fluid.

• ...with my present pattern

*partner

oops