Hi so a strange one
met up with an old flame who used to like me a lot more than I did him when we were younger. Been in a relationship with my children’s father for years however we broke up for a while I went back to this guy, we had fun I think he liked me (I was in a toxic relationship so stated off the bat I didn’t want anything serious just someone to go on dates and have fun with as I was traumatised) however, I ended up going on family days out with my ex. This guy saw this through social media. it looked cosy I’d say. We fizzled out and I ended up getting back with my ex. My ex found his number and phoned him, the guy definitely had my back. Although naturally we had already stopped speaking but i blocked him after this as I am not a cheat.
fast forward four years later, I’ve had another baby with my ex but we are done for good (he’s been cheating and the rest). I didn’t date for ages but I messaged this old flame who I hadn’t really thought about until this moment - a bit embarrassing but a bit of a booty call (I have my needs and it’s been a long time!). I was wine tipsy when I booty called him we went for some drinks and ended up sleeping together. We’ve always had a strong sexual connection, he’s always messaged the next day. He didn’t this time around. I messaged him we spoke I left his last message on read. I can’t stop thinking about him and don’t necessarily want a relationship with him, but I want what we had a few years ago in terms of dating and having fun (company when I don’t have the kids).
My pride is a bit hurt as he didn’t message the next day, I’m also very traditional (usually lol) and expect the guy to do the chasing and that if they aren’t - they just aren’t into you. That being said a small part of me wonders if maybe he thinks I’d get back with my ex (I also know found out he had an on off gf back then too).
im not very good at showing I like someone, I’m used to always being chased. Back when we first met 10 years ago I was the hot one, he defo chased. FF and he’s now the hot one and definitely has loads of options, he gets a lot of attention when out! I’m still attractive but about 7kgs heavier and a mum of two! Twisting myself up over it.
he hasn’t messaged since I left him on read. To me this just shows he’s not interested, but the irrational side of me is hoping it’s for some other reason! He’s very good in bed and wouldn’t be surprised if he had a whole roster of women….of which I don’t want to be, or do I!?
ps this is not usually my character. Argh! I think it’s bothering me that he clearly doesn’t fancy me like he used to. Can I add he was at my house 30 mins after I booty called him after four years???? Does that mean anything? Probs not as he didn’t message the next day.
im like an obsessed school girl and its so embarrassing fml.
nice kind answers please!