My DW is pregnant with no libido , I want release but definitely don’t wish to upset my wife or become too needy, what to do?

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My DW is now pregnant, we recently had a miscarriage. Only 2-3 weeks pregnant this time round. Thing is that I never masturbate, (previously at least once a day) now that we’re together and married I don’t do it. Save all my loving for DW. I have no intentions of going elsewhere (nasty) , I also don’t wish to upset my wife by being too needy, any advice from others who have been the DH or DW in the same scenario?

Just do it privately, with no fuss, and not when you are supposed to be doing something else. And for fucks sake don't leave any soggy tissues laying about.

Alternatively your wife might want to still have sex with you, assuming medical advice says its ok. Perhaps she will help you out, or if she is not feeling up to anything, might be happy for you to carry on.

There's only one real way to find out, and unless she is on here and recognises you, then you are just going to have to have a gentle discussion.

I just feel guilty by doing it alone. We are both in or around the 30 mark by the way. We will only contact the GP today as we wanted to wait until the missed period.
her body is experiencing changes and we got pregnant a matter of weeks after the miscarriage so her body has been through a lot and hormones are all over the place.
i am not sure when the correct time is to address this topic with her

You shouldn't feel guilty about masturbating, as long as it doesn't affect your sex life.

I am sure as a mature couple, who have been through what you have, you can have that conversation, although it may not be as a big a conversation as you seem to have built up in your head.

Congratulations to you both, and wishing your wife a happy and healthy pregnancy.

As above just do it in private. It doesn't have to be a big deal. Most people masturbate and it doesn't normally mean there's anything wrong with your relationship. I'm glad to hear you wouldn't look elsewhere, considering pregnancy is a relatively short period of time and you have to prioritise her needs over yours on this one.

Thing is, coming on a womans forum and saying your wife doesn't want sex with you, for any reason, isn't going to result in advice on how to make her.... is thst what you're hoping for?

This is besides the point but how do you know she's pregnant if she's only 2 weeks?

At the point you conceive you are classed as 2 weeks pregnant and it wouldn't normally show on a test for another 2 weeks, so by then she'd be minimum 4 weeks. That's just the way it's calculated.

How difficult can it be that you need to seek advice from strangers on a web forum?!!

Knock one out daily in the bathroom. She doesn't need to know. (This is what 98% of the world will do.)

or

Talk to her about it. She may offer to help or she could simply go and do something else while you have some alone time.