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Will my sex drive ever come back?

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Worried80 · 12/07/2024 18:50

I’m 15 months post Partum and 36 years old. Since having my baby I have no interest in sex at all - not just with my partner, I can only describe it as if a switch has been turned off and I am no longer a sexual being. I can’t imagine ever having sex again with anyone, the thought makes me feel sick. I hate my body (even though I was lucky that it didn’t change a huge amount) and I have recently discovered I have a prolapse which is one issue as I can’t imagine ever feeling sexy with that, but I felt like this before knowing it was there. I also think I am not ovulating (but haven’t been breastfeeding for almost a year now) so maybe that’s part of it. My partner is very kind and understanding, and I would force myself to do it if he wanted to.
Has anyone else felt like this? Is this normal 15 months in? Will I ever regain my sex drive? Day to day it doesn’t bother me so much, but when I hear other people talking about sex and seemingly enjoying it I just think I must be so weird as I’m knocked sick at the thought.
Any similar experiences welcomed! I feel sad I’m like this at only 36.

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Lucia212 · 13/07/2024 20:33

I'm the same! it's weird isn't it. I'm just 18 months PP.
It's just not a thought, or doesn't cross my mind at all in a day. I could happily go about my day to day and come home and go bed or do anything or everything else but think of that and be quite content.
And the thought of it makes me cringe or feel sick, or if OH touches me I feel it's so inappropriate!! It's so weird.
I mean this is my second it took a while to come back after baby n.o1 but then I fell pregnant pretty quickly! So that was short lived.
I dunno what the solution is or the reason to be fair just in the same boat.
Hubby says he doesn't know why I even bother take the pill anymore! Although I did stop it for a while and felt GREAT but was too scared to have sex then. Could it be that?

Girlgoneinternational · 14/07/2024 22:46

I'm 20 months pp and I felt the same way until a couple of months ago, then I started ovulating again and my sex drive came right back. I would say it's probably more common than you think.

Joyfulincolour · 15/07/2024 10:08

https://www.dontbuyherflowers.com/podcast/the-dont-buy-her-flowers-podcast-ep-020/

This podcast is worth a listen. Also, Dr Karen Gurney's new book would be relevant too. It's all about how our sex life is affected when we have children, but she has practical advice on how to get it back. She's worth a follow on Instagram too - The Sex Doctor.

THE DON'T BUY HER FLOWERS PODCAST: Ep 20. Sex in Long Term Relationships with Dr Karen Gurney - Don't Buy Her Flowers

Steph and Em discuss mother’s guilt, which Em says can feel even more intense when you’ve adopted. Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast.

https://www.dontbuyherflowers.com/podcast/the-dont-buy-her-flowers-podcast-ep-020

Joyfulincolour · 15/07/2024 10:10

There is also some research that shows hormonal contraceptives like the pill can really affect libido.

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