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Sex from behind

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Girlmum2024 · 10/07/2024 13:28

This is embarrassing to ask but here goes..

My partner is the only person I have ever had sex with and I was a virgin before we met. He had many relationships before me.

I have never been able to orgasm through penetrative sex but we have only do missionary but a lot of foreplay. I orgasm through foreplay and then he gets on top and orgasms inside me.

Recently, I want more and have asked him to try entering me from behind - I feel that will work better for me and I prefer to come in that position. We have tried a handful of times but he can't get it in in that position and we give up quickly. He said I need to put him inside me myself but that's impossible with him from behind! Why can't he manage it? Just confused - I am not at all experienced and as I said this is the only person I have slept with so not sure what is normal. TV shows obviously make it seem so simple and men are always flipping the girl round and a millisecond later they are going for it.... what are we doing wrong?

(appreciate this sounds desperately basic! 😳)

OP posts:
Wakemeup17 · 10/07/2024 13:57

You have to try few times until he gets the feeling of where to aim.
Or you can try with him aiming his dick at you and you sort of wiggling onto it.
Sometimes it takes a bit of time to get a new position to work. Sense of humour and no stress help :)

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Girlmum2024 · 10/07/2024 14:29

Thanks. 😀

Is it possible that he is "too small" for it to work? Again, no experience of what is a regular size - or big or small!!

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BigFeetEnergy · 10/07/2024 14:31

Are you talking about sex while spooning, or doggy style?
Either way, tilt your hips back so your bum sticks out, reach down between your legs for his cock and guide him to the right place

Fs365 · 10/07/2024 14:55

His eyes are about 2ft away from his cock and in doggy your bum is in way of seeing the viginal opening & the opening is almost underneath you in doggy

as PP says try going more head down and bum up, he will also have to bend his legs so his penis is a bit lower and use his hand go “guide it”

ignore what you see on the telly.

MiddleAgedDread · 10/07/2024 16:50

Do you mean spooning or doggy style? We can't get spooning to work either yet we're both similar height and build (relatively slim so it's not like there's a big gut getting in the way!) but doggy should be straightforward enough. You might need to stick your bum up a bit and guide him in with one hand, or suggest he uses a finger or two to find where he's aiming for!

OfcourseitsaNC · 10/07/2024 20:03

Head on the pillow, bum up high. Legs apart. Tell him to have a feel so he knows where to head for, and you reach up and put your hand on your vagina so he knows where to head. Then you guide him in.

Once he's in, you can raise your head off the pillow and close your legs a little to squeeze him in.

Have fun working it out.

SportGirl · 10/07/2024 23:28

Doggy style is amazing but it works best if the guy is well endowed

StarlightLady · 11/07/2024 07:57

With practice, on all fours, you should be able to put one arm behind to help ease him in. In addition if he runs his penis up and down in that area, he should be able to find the opening.

Shropshiregirl51 · 11/07/2024 10:50

Oh hun

just relax and make it fun. The more stress, the more the fear of failing and frustration. Enjoy the journey not the destination.

A larger penis makes it visually easier but I’ve done it with small ones no issue

how large is your partner?

aqua18 · 11/07/2024 14:40

Have you tried doing another position first then moving to doggy? Can help ensure it's more lubricated for him to slide in.

As long as he's fully hard and aiming in the right area it should go in, could try a bit of lube too to help as well. Enjoy!

Namechangeforfuntopic · 11/07/2024 15:48

We changed to spoons when I was pregnant with 2nd, Very comfortable as the bump is totally supported, It was nice to continue full sex well into pregnancy.
It is our favourite position still.

Girlmom35 · 12/07/2024 13:46

Was your husband a virgin too?
How old are you now?
How long have you been married?

Doggy takes a bit of practice. Yes it works better with men who are more endowed. But it can also be difficult when there's a big height difference between you, in which case it might me easier if he stands and you on hands and knees on the edge of the bed. It's also not recommended if he has trouble getting/staying hard.
You also have to learn to tilt your hips to become more accessible. So arch your back, bum in the air, spread your legs. Feel where he's trying to enter and either lift your bum high of spread your knees a bit to get lower.

Practice and have fun.

mbonfield · 12/07/2024 14:26

TV sex is always over in less than a minute, we always laugh when it occurs seems more these days.

IRL it would be difficult unless the footings and ground work had been prepared.

Good luck OP practice makes perfect, I think that you have been given some good tips especially your head on a pillow and your bum in the air!

GigiAnnna · 12/07/2024 18:47

Face down, arch your back so your belly is lying flat on a pillow and raise your bum. This should give him a view of where to enter.

TheKookyJoker · 12/07/2024 20:36

This can be tricky, but if you gently guide him in with some sensual encouragement, It is really fun for both.

Blondiebeachbabe · 13/07/2024 17:08

My DH can't get it in, in this position either. I think it's because his thighs are quite chunky. Never had an issue with previous partners. I miss it!

StarlightLady · 13/07/2024 18:21

Blondiebeachbabe · 13/07/2024 17:08

My DH can't get it in, in this position either. I think it's because his thighs are quite chunky. Never had an issue with previous partners. I miss it!

Are you similar heights? Try kneeling on a pillow.

Metro55 · 14/07/2024 13:43

Do you Arch your backside up face down on bed entry much easier

Fs365 · 14/07/2024 19:08

Blondiebeachbabe · 13/07/2024 17:08

My DH can't get it in, in this position either. I think it's because his thighs are quite chunky. Never had an issue with previous partners. I miss it!

How does the size of his thighs affect this ?

Fs365 · 16/07/2024 09:28

Girlmum2024 · 10/07/2024 14:29

Thanks. 😀

Is it possible that he is "too small" for it to work? Again, no experience of what is a regular size - or big or small!!

assuming he has an average sized penis when erect ( 5 to 6 inches) and can keep a good erection, unless he has a large stomach and / or you have a big bum - size should not be an issue ( assuming he can keep a good erection ? )

EnergeticTigerDad · 20/07/2024 23:24

Namechangeforfuntopic · 11/07/2024 15:48

We changed to spoons when I was pregnant with 2nd, Very comfortable as the bump is totally supported, It was nice to continue full sex well into pregnancy.
It is our favourite position still.

This is one of our favorites as well, sometimes called Lazy Dog, right? Definitely nice during pregnancy and also just a nice intimate, relaxed one in general. My wife also likes regular doggy and cowgirl, but we only do missionary to start off (she's very tiny and needs to go very slowly at first or it hurts her too much).

MrsBrollie · 21/07/2024 06:31

My husband and I have problem with doggy style but we just can’t do it in the spoon position at all we have tried many times but even get his penis anywhere near my vagina.

Kerkyra2024 · 26/07/2024 10:50

I LOVE doggie style easiest way to start is face down on pillow, bum up high and legs apart. Reach for him between your legs and guide him. Start off slow as sometimes if you go straight to fast occasionally accidents can happen where he pops out 😅

TheKookyJoker · 26/07/2024 11:02

Slow and steady The best for this, then gradually get comfortable with increasing the pace. Patience, patience, patience.

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