Multiple orgasms?

justnormaI · 2024-07-01T13:03:09+00:00

Hi, I'm looking to know is it ONLY ME who cannot for the life of me multiple orgasm or even continue sex after an orgasm??? Me and a few friends had a very drunken chat a few nights ago about multiple orgasms and I was the only one who couldn't do it... now it has me thinking why can't i? Me and dp have a great sex life, but when i orgasm that's it the sex is done. Dp does attempt to go in again but I cannot take it!!! It doesn't not feel good I am FAR too sensitive. I would need to wait at least another 2 hours before even attempting again... Am I the only one?

DixonD · 01/07/2024 14:08

I can’t either. I can go again, but I need a break of no less than 10 minutes usually. I can’t bear to be to touched straight afterwards.

Darkdarkdeeds · 01/07/2024 18:46

I'm with you @justnormaI. Have always been this way. I've tried experimenting with DH continuing gentle touch after I've orgasmed but like you I'm too sensitive and I just don't really enjoy it. Tbh the idea of a marathon sex session with multiple positions and hours of banging away/multiple orgasms doesn't really do it for me anyway, so am happy with my one, deeply satisfying orgasm per session :-)

SportGirl · 01/07/2024 19:32

I've managed it not sure what the secret is but I've always had a ridiculously high sex drive

GigiAnnna · 01/07/2024 19:59

I do regularly. I need a couple of minutes recovery from a clitoral orgasm before I can go again. I usually find my second, then third orgasms are even better. With a G spot orgasm, I experience it over and over again. I don't need the same build up for that as I do clitoral.

DixonD · 01/07/2024 23:19

Darkdarkdeeds · 01/07/2024 18:46

I'm with you @justnormaI. Have always been this way. I've tried experimenting with DH continuing gentle touch after I've orgasmed but like you I'm too sensitive and I just don't really enjoy it. Tbh the idea of a marathon sex session with multiple positions and hours of banging away/multiple orgasms doesn't really do it for me anyway, so am happy with my one, deeply satisfying orgasm per session :-)

I agree. One decent orgasm so there’s never the need for any extras. I always feel “done” after one.

Darkdarkdeeds · 02/07/2024 07:15

Maybe drive has something to do with it. I tend towards a lower sex drive (if you've read 'come as you are' I'd say I have a more sensitive brake and less sensitive accelerator).

I have actually had a second orgasm when I was younger, by myself rather than with a partner, but it was underwhelming to say the least. Maybe somehow that laid the foundations of my belief that 2nd orgasms weren't worth the effort (for me, that is) 🤔

I love how there is such a variety in how we can experience a satisfying sex life. It's natural to wonder if what we experience is 'normal' and can feel good to realise that others are like us, but ultimately there is no 'normal', or to put it another way, everything is normal :-) What's important is whether we and our partners are happy with how things are.

NewGirlinClass · 02/07/2024 08:02

I have been thinking about the differences between masturbating, sex with a man and being with a woman. (I am Bi). Perhaps other bi women have an opinion?
For me multiples were rare very rare with a man, I was married for a long time. By myself I am usually happy to cum once.
With my GF we can stay simmering for ages after an orgasm, usually with peaks. I do not like toys so do not use them.
(please no PMs from male persons)

DixonD · 02/07/2024 08:23

Darkdarkdeeds · 02/07/2024 07:15

Maybe drive has something to do with it. I tend towards a lower sex drive (if you've read 'come as you are' I'd say I have a more sensitive brake and less sensitive accelerator).

I have actually had a second orgasm when I was younger, by myself rather than with a partner, but it was underwhelming to say the least. Maybe somehow that laid the foundations of my belief that 2nd orgasms weren't worth the effort (for me, that is) 🤔

I love how there is such a variety in how we can experience a satisfying sex life. It's natural to wonder if what we experience is 'normal' and can feel good to realise that others are like us, but ultimately there is no 'normal', or to put it another way, everything is normal :-) What's important is whether we and our partners are happy with how things are.

Edited

I have a high sex drive and still happy with one. I have a very sensitive accelerator so you put it as well - I can come very quickly. Had sex on Saturday that was less than five minutes.

burnhambreeches · 02/07/2024 13:24

@NewGirlinClass , I dislike toys, a bullet vibey for those lone moments but otherwise lips and hands.
Maybe someone will start a Thread about Toys or Not.
I am Bi but not known a man for some years now.

DixonD · 02/07/2024 13:30

burnhambreeches · 02/07/2024 13:24

@NewGirlinClass , I dislike toys, a bullet vibey for those lone moments but otherwise lips and hands.
Maybe someone will start a Thread about Toys or Not.
I am Bi but not known a man for some years now.

I’m the same - I prefer no toys but use one when I want to be quick.

burnhambreeches · 02/07/2024 15:04

@NewGirlinClass With my GF we can stay simmering for ages after an orgasm, usually with peaks.

Yes, that is so lovely, I enjoy those peaks of passion. More likely to happen with a woman than a man in my experience; would you agree?

Acesup6995 · 05/07/2024 18:48

I’ve seen both ends of the spectrum. I slept with one girl who had such a hair trigger I swear you could breathe on her clit and she would cum. She had actually had a surgery to remove the clitoral hood. How that’s an actual medical procedure I’ll never understand. But she could cum over and over with little recovery like most I witnessed was seven in a row.
Then another girl I dated yeah she was like a guy in that she’d have one big orgasm and then be tired and done and kinda over sensitive in a bad way,

That’s the beauty of women is they are all unique mysteries and every different way they are wired is beautiful and unique. If that’s how you are wired nothing at all wrong with it